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    Kevskos, splashy, TrueBlueMajority

    The reason we need to emphasize more strongly that it is the man*'s responsibility not to rape is that the rapist is the actor. The rapist is the criminal.  It doesn't matter how short a woman's skirt is, how much she flirts and teases, or how drunk she gets, if the rapist doesn't rape, no rape occurs.  That's one reason.

    Creating a culture of fear where women have to second guess what they wear, who they talk to, or whether they can walk to their car alone after work because all of those things might trip bullet-points on the checklist of "things that get you raped" is also a problem.  It is stigmatizing.  It is disempowering.  And, sure you can calmly say, well, of course it wasn't her fault, but there's always that self-assured rape apologist adding "but she could have done this differently."  That's another.

    While there's a general consensus that raping someone is wrong - and in fact a crime - and many men are strong advocates of women having the right to be free of unwanted sex, there are many other men and some women who figure it's a woman's responsibility to make sure she lives a protected life and if she fails, well, too bad.
    [citation needed].  Actually, just don't.  People who believe that this is a dog-rape-dog world and that if you get raped, well, hey, tough breaks are psychopaths.  Also, raping someone is wrong.  "General consensus" doesn't mean what I think you think it means. Paragraphs like this make you sound like an apologist for rape culture.

    *Yes, there are female rapists, too, but they're a strident minority, and female-on-victim rape tends to happen in different circumstances than male-on-victim rape, so the gendered addressing here is intentional.

    •  Ummm. Did this get posted in response to a (0+ / 0-)

      different comment maybe?  I'm the one posting about how we need to emphasize more strongly that it's mens' responsibility to not rape and that women should never bear blame for being raped.  I was responding to a comment that seemed angry over that concept.

      "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

      by gustynpip on Mon Jun 17, 2013 at 02:09:07 PM PDT

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