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    Glinda, The Eyewitness Muse, RageKage

    you have a good point...even if I am not entirely sure Paula Deen is a good example of this.

    No time for further discussion about this right now -- house guests to attend to -- but I think this can be a very interesting conversation.

    "I think in America, the opposite of poverty is justice." Bryan Stevenson

    by gfre on Wed Jun 26, 2013 at 06:23:38 PM PDT

    •  Bad examples are the best examples... (1+ / 0-)
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      ...because there's going to be the most opportunity for sussing out what the actual issues are.

      it fitfully blows, half conceals, half discloses

      by Addison on Wed Jun 26, 2013 at 06:33:57 PM PDT

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      •  Very good point. (3+ / 0-)
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        DFWmom, NWTerriD, white blitz

        I used the N-word as a child. It was part of a rhyme I learned, and I'm not sure I even knew what it meant, at least at first.

        At one point, there was one AA child at my elementary school -- we lived in a white suburb of a small steel city in Western PA.  My parents were kind and generous Rockefeller Republicans, because where we lived, if you were a college-educated WASP, you were a Republican, and if you were an Eastern-European steel worker, you were a Democrat.

        But my father had grown up in a very bigoted home in upstate NY/northeastern PA -- and he hadn't entirely escaped that background. My mother grew up in a home where her 6th-grade-educated father -- who had become a successful salesman for Atlantic Richfield -- declared he thought his AA heart specialist "smelled different."

        I was a product of my home, my prejudiced ancestors, and my own ignorance. I don't think it's in the same league as Paula Deen -- I have never used that word as an adult, and I like to think I am now, in my 60's, a pretty darn prejudice-free liberal.

        But that was a journey, and I hope I would be accepted for who I am now today, not the unthinking child I was 50 years ago.

        I won't cry for Paula Deen's business losses -- she promoted terribly unhealthy food for years.  I never liked her personality, her food, her fake folksiness for the camera, etc.

        But every day we make decisions, as individuals, as parts of groups, etc., who we will forgive and who must remain unforgiven.

        At the end of the day, those lists may say more about us than they say about the people on them.

        "I think in America, the opposite of poverty is justice." Bryan Stevenson

        by gfre on Wed Jun 26, 2013 at 07:47:33 PM PDT

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