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  •  It's much easier to get along with someone else if (1+ / 0-)
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    both of you see/believe that you've got enough resources to not only survive on a day to day basis, but to cope with at least minor emergencies.

    It's even easier if both of you perceive that there are unallocated resources available above that minimum that can be tapped with extra effort, and even more if that effort needs to be communal.

    It's easy to get along with other people who agree that they're not playing in a zero sum game, and that more for one person doesn't mean less for another.

    Create a zero sum game, or what seems like one, however, and it's a rare person who can maintain what we call a civilized attitude toward people who get tagged as competition.

    When job prospects are broad, salaries steady or rising, and the necessities and some of the luxuries of life are readily available, paranoia tends to decline. If you've noticed, though, we're kind of in the opposite condition. Paranoia is on the upswing, with some legitimacy, and when you have increasing paranoia, there's much more of a tendency to defend rather than explore.

    At least half the future I've been expecting hasn't gotten here yet. Sigh.... (Yes, there's gender bias in my name; no, I wasn't thinking about it when I signed up. My apologies.)

    by serendipityisabitch on Thu Jun 27, 2013 at 04:30:22 PM PDT

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      Your vision is Utopianistic in the extreme. Your's is loverly view that in not just unrealistic but actually so naive as to be dangerous.

      One goes along thinking nice thoughts and watching the butterflies while getting stabbed in the back.

      It is not horrible to think that a substantial portion of the populous is mendacious to the core - but this is the reality. It has been proven time and again - anarchy is a survival of the fittest game - and that makes it a zero sum world.

      I have a friend who is a very compassionate psychiatrists. He always looks at the better side of some very sick patients.  Yet even he says of some that they simply have "bad brain disease".

      I laude  your optimism - but fear for your well being.

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