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  •  I should probably reprise my post ..... (10+ / 0-)

    .... of the other night in response to the diary by commonmass - which came very late, so that probably few read it. This concerns when you came out - either as a gay person, or as a straight ally.  


    I became a gay rights supporter in stages (not unlike others, I suppose). I didn't think much about gays when I was young, as it wasn't really talked about in my middle-class suburb. And while I was put off by someone like Anita Bryant, I can't say I was overly sympathetic back in the early-to-mid 70's. But then the following happened:

    1)  I was bullied when I was young (as I was a somewhat short, and very much a weakling in junior high, before filling out). And as I read about young gay kids being bullied - and much worse than it was for me - I became more sympatico.

    2) I came to realize that the other opponents of gay rights - not exclusively the religious, but most often were - also opposed most forms of non-procreative, married sexuality. And so I had a stake in taking them on, too: The enemy - of your enemy - is your friend.

    3) And later in life - I am in my mid-50's - I have never married, nor fathered a child, nor lived with a woman for an appreciable amount of time (i.e., fully moving-in) and I tend to be quiet about my dating habits.

    That isn't an issue with my relatives - the next one that gets on my case to get married will be the first - but some people are quizzical about me. One can almost see the gears grinding in their heads, wondering .....

    So far: that's all it has gone. I've never not gotten a date because of my never-married status, nor has anyone accused or even asked me if I was gay. But I can easily imagine: what if I was? Would I have the intestinal fortitude to say so? What if someone did ask me if I was gay in a menacing manner?

    For that reason: while gay rights are not my direct fight, it not-so-indirectly affects me. Those are the practical reasons for me to be a straight ally.

    Of course, I don't need those reasons .... doing the right thing is all that matters (virtue is its own reward). But it's not bad to have other incentives, I'll admit.

    "We should pay attention to that man behind the curtain."

    by Ed Tracey on Sun Jun 30, 2013 at 07:42:52 PM PDT

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