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  •  It still was enough to wreck a friendship. (1+ / 0-)
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    That looking at the new baby look that I should have had, wasn't there. It wasn't longer than an eye blink. But it was long enough to wreck a friendship.

    So in a way it was worse because I lost more.

    As far as my parking meter story, it does show how a black person with normal impulses could run amok. You said Hay to a white woman!!!  When the irresistible impulse was only a desire for free parking. (paying for parking in Seattle in those days was avoided at all costs with pride)

    It just takes a split second to start down the path. Will there ever be a way to avoid going down the path?

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    by 88kathy on Thu Jul 04, 2013 at 10:18:52 AM PDT

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    •  Shouldn't be (0+ / 0-)

      My kids are half Asian.

      Sometimes people who don't know me well see their pictures on my phone and ask "Oh... are they Asian?".

      My response is "Half.  My wife is Chinese."

      I've never seen a reason to be offended by that.  Frankly, anyone who is offended is a bit stupid.

      But saying that a black person should be less black.... What the hell is that supposed to mean anyway? That they should be more white, like you?
      Perhaps that it's funny that someone looks so much like a stereotype?

      BTW, first time I took my (the future) wife to the US we saw a black guy in those ridiculously baggy pants pulled only halfway up and she asks me "Is he so poor he has to wear pants out of the trash and he can't find ones that fit?"

      Some things look stupid in ways that are just plain culturally universal.

    •  Sorry that happened (1+ / 0-)
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      56-year old white male married to a black woman and we have 2 girls in their 20's.  I've lost count of the times I've felt the need to explain.  As with Sitting Jack Flash, I've never felt offended by their interest.

      •  It was just a split second. There was no (0+ / 0-)

        explanation called for.

        The closest thing I ever heard was a friend of mine had 4 kids and thought he was an expert on babies. That was back in the day when babies were on display. So the he got all full of himself and started going pretty baby, pretty baby, ugly baby, pretty baby, ugly baby. Well one of the 'ugly babies' belonged to the man he was talking to, who didn't think his baby was ugly at all.

        So in that split second, I didn't say 'pretty baby' and there was no way to take it back.

        Things happen so fast. Maybe sometimes the people who made you feel the need to explain, went home thinking they would give anything to take back the careless look or word that led down that path.

        Sometimes the only thing I can do is hope I don't do it again.

        give the NRA the Royal Flush join Stop The NRA

        by 88kathy on Fri Jul 12, 2013 at 12:01:44 PM PDT

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