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  •  I also have ADD (3+ / 0-)
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    marleycat, GEldridge, ladybug53

    I was diagnosed at 50 when I was searching for help for my grandson. While Adderall helped me considerably, he was put on Concerta. He's just graduated from highschool and still can't function without his medication.

    I've noticed that there hasn't been much said here so far on how ADD affects relationships. ADD affected people have more difficulty maintaining close relationships, both marital and close friendships. The tendency to go overboard with something new is contrasted with the inability to maintain focus for the long term. There's truth in the adage that attention fades when the shine wears off.
    Just as it's difficult create a steady employment record, it's just as hard or harder to stay focused in a relationship.

    There are professionals called "life coaches" who assist ADD affected individuals stay focused and organized. they aren't therapists per se, but in helping someone cope with unexpected difficulties or snags, the ensuing order achieved works much the same. they perform much like athletic coaches.

    I've noticed that the longer I've had to learn coping skills (aging) the better I get at it.

    •  Good point--relationships are a huge concern (1+ / 0-)
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      ladybug53

      Hi Alice and thanks for steering the discussion toward interactions with the rest of the world, and especially family members. I'll have to take some of the blame since I'm an old bachelor and a gay man with no kids. My parents are deceased, so my own event horizon is perhaps way limited in that regard.

      I certainly appreciate the difficulties of the various combinations of parents, kids, husbands and wives with some having ADD, others not and all doing business in between. One of the very sad situations I've heard of is having one kid in a multiple-child family diagnosed with ADD and all that entails (special treatment etc) and having to manage the ADD support with raising the other children without igniting the perception that the kid with ADD gets away with murder. Humans view few evils as being worse than "It's not fair!"

      Maybe someone who is experiencing those issues could write a post sharing their experiences, insights and outcomes.

      Thanks again for some really important information.

      "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." George Santayana

      by GEldridge on Mon Jul 08, 2013 at 04:37:59 PM PDT

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