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  •  your having something similar happen (0+ / 0-)

    Because of how you are dressed has no bearing on why someone would assume a black person in attendance would be presumed to be the hired help. I know from personal experience that my attire was irrelevant; when the wait staff is wearing white coats and black pants and I am wearing a taupe double-breasted suit and brown wing tips my attire is not the reason for presuming me to be part of the staff. I would wager that then Illinois State Senator Obama was not dressed like a waiter either... Your experience does not negate mine...or any other POC's, for that matter... But your condescension here demonstrates just why it is idiotic for someone who cannot walk a mile in my shoes to presume to know of what I speak better than I do. Closer examination would reveal to you that our experiences have far more that is not in common than that which is...

    Fear doesn't just breed incomprehension. It also breeds a spiteful, resentful hate of anyone and everyone who is in any way different from you.

    by awesumtenor on Sat Jul 20, 2013 at 05:45:51 PM PDT

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    •  Fair enough (0+ / 0-)

      I think you missed my point, which was that any number of reasons might cause someone to make that mistake, or even no reason at all other than momentary cluelessness.  Not just attire.

      In the Obama story, the salient information that we had was that he was standing alone removed from the general mingling of the party. But, you chose to focus on my suggesting he might also have been dressed more conservatively. And, I might add, that you have no more clue than I about how he was dressed. Maybe it was a black-tie affair, in which case most men would be dressed like waiters.

      And, I wasn't talking about any particular experience you've had. However, if you think it's impossible and idiotic for me to presume to know anything about it because I wasn't in your shoes, how is it for you to presume to know why someone else made the mistake you encountered? You certainly haven't walked in their shoes.

      But thanks for assuming I was being condescending, since you've walked enough in my shoes to know what my tone and attitude was. I know that things in the black experience are beyond mine. I also know that tall people experience life differently than me. We still can have discussions about it.

      Coming Soon -- to an Internet connection near you:

      by FischFry on Mon Jul 22, 2013 at 06:44:28 AM PDT

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