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  •  I won't rub his nose in it (13+ / 0-)

    but I doubt he will change his thinking. Everything my husband and I have done in the last, say, ten years, has not exactly made him happy. We moved to the L.A. area, you know, that seething cesspool of liberalism (yeah...). I work for the big bad government. We bought cars that were too expensive. We bought a house that was too big. I suppose this is just another in a long line of disapprovals, but it infuriated me so much more.

    •  About the disowning. (3+ / 0-)
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      shiobe, ladybug53, JVolvo

      It's not the right term, but what it expresses is "casting out from the family" and extreme disapproval. To cut someone off completely, not owning your familiar relationships with them. This is based in deep disapproval of an abstraction and if 17 years of experience with your husband doesn't weigh against it, all you may be able to do is just go about your lives and try to hold your father in some kind of compassionate regard.

      Shiobe, you sound very grounded if I may say and very clear-minded. Thanks for sharing this story. My family 'made it on their own', never taking public assistance, but had a network of family, others of the same ethnic background, and all have accepted their Medicare, Medicaid, Social Security (including SSI when needed) and my Dad went to college on ROTC and graduated in absentia: he got shipped off to the Pacific in 1942.

      You can observe a lot just by watching. - Yogi Berra

      by kayak58 on Wed Aug 07, 2013 at 08:50:52 AM PDT

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