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  •  SS Survivor Benefits vs Welfare (3+ / 0-)
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    ladybug53, TiaRachel, betterdemsonly

    Women who have to flee a bad relationship or are abandoned by their husbands only qualify for Welfare and are looked down upon as unworthy drains on society. Women whose husband's leave them through death, get SS Survivor benefits and people view they sympathetically and are glad they are getting the government's assistance.

    Misogamy is so entranced in our society that even a women alone trying her best to raise her children is viewed through the prism of who the man in her life use to be, with government benefits being serving as moral absolution or condemnation.

    My husbands father died when he was 10 leaving behind 4 children. They depended on SS Survivor Benefits and nobody would call her a drain on society.

    •  for my father and brother (2+ / 0-)
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      ladybug53, betterdemsonly

      having a death in the family is a tragedy, even though they would disagree about anyone receiving survivor benefits because it comes from the government. Leaving a spouse, in their religious viewpoint, no matter the reason, is a insult to God. Yes, they promote a woman staying in an abusive relationship, even to the point of death, because otherwise she'll get punished eternally in the afterlife. On top of that, they believe people should live with their mistakes. Sympathy for the abused is pretty rare--though, I have noticed in some of the church members, that sympathy suddenly becomes a real and mighty thing when it happens to a loved one (like their own daughter). It's always a different case when it happens to someone they love, rather than a random stranger.

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