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  •  If you are not sincere (1+ / 0-)
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    churchylafemme

    don't apologize. If you feel the person is an idiot who misinterpreted your words and/or you do not genuinely regret them, then DO NOT apologize.

    The point of this diary is what constitutes a valid apology when you wrong someone.

    If you feel the person is an idiot, call them on it in any way you wish, but do NOT offer an apology. On top of everything else, you cannot apologize on behalf of someone else, this is yet another non-apology.

    "I am sorry you are an idiot." no matter how politely phrased is an insult.

    •  Sounds great in theory (0+ / 0-)

      Don't get me wrong, I don't like those no-apology apologies either, especially when there really is something to apologize for. And I agree with your diary about how to actually word a meaningful apology. And I do like your diary. But there are times where an "apology" has to be given so it might as well be one of the non-apologies you listed above.

      Or maybe I'm just overly cynical about sincerity in business and politics.

      •  Gotcha (1+ / 0-)
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        Boogalord
        But there are times where an "apology" has to be given so it might as well be one of the non-apologies you listed above.
        If I understand correctly, the gist of what you are saying is: "We are not sorry, we don't regret what we  did, but we have to pretend we do."

        I, like you, am cynical enough to believe that happens all the times with public figures. I just would personally prefer no apology at all to a "non-apology". I find the latter just adds insult to injury.

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