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  •   It tried that (2+ / 0-)
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    plumbobb, mettle fatigue

    But his phobia, developed as a child with an operation that went very wrong, overcame what I had to say.

    So, I have to go with that it was his choice. He didn't want to "become a burden" and he wasn't. Right up until the day he had the heart attack he was right there, vibrant and alive, able to do everything he wanted. No decline at all, until the last day or so.

    I knew one of us would go eventually, since he was 10 years older than me I figured it was more likely to him, just not this soon. I thought there'd be another 20 years or so since his father lived to be 94.

    Shows that thinking doesn't make it so. I'm happy we enjoyed each day as much as we could, and that I have quite a few videos and pictures of him.



    Women create the entire labor force.
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    Sympathy is the strongest instinct in human nature. - Charles Darwin

    by splashy on Mon Sep 09, 2013 at 12:50:19 PM PDT

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    •  I tried that, not it! (arrrghhh) eom (2+ / 0-)
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      Women create the entire labor force.
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      Sympathy is the strongest instinct in human nature. - Charles Darwin

      by splashy on Mon Sep 09, 2013 at 12:50:49 PM PDT

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    •  So sorry for your loss - and glad you had the time (1+ / 0-)
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      plumbobb

      Sorry that it didn't work for you! Doesn't always, but worth a try. It sounds as if you had a rich and happy life together and counted each day as a blessing.

      I was lucky to know exactly what buttons to push with my dad and to be the first-born daughter, with all the privileges of a special place in his heart for that. I try not to misuse these Special Powers. And despite his fear of doctors dating back to appendicitis and peritonitis and near death as a boy, he really liked Marsha once he met her, and he had great respect for her knowledge. He didn't do everything she asked but he listened, and he gave her business advice (he was an accounting professor) and did everything she suggested to take care of my mother.

      But he didn't expect to live to 97, and to become frail and more dependent, or to have my mother develop dementia. Perhaps he'd rather have gone suddenly 5 years ago. Sigh.

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