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    responses to tragedies, personal or more public or general, such as in school shootings, 9/11 planes-as-weapons, bombings, etc. to be connected. At least it's so in my experience in that horrific public events most often bring me to very private grief related to personal losses I have experienced. I think this is "good" in the sense that it awakens empathy to the suffering of others and in some small way, perhaps, allows me not to be insensitive (or desensitized) to the personal nature of how deaths in those more "public" events also carry their personal impacts on those many friends and family members who knew those who have died. Still, my first reaction, almost always, when thinking about others' grief, such as yours here or families of those who have died in either Twin Tower collapses, drone attacks, school shootings, or any other public or publicized death, almost always involves thinking about my brother, who died at 27, or some other much more personal experience. I think this is natural, and expressing this here as you do also connects with something I believe in sincerely, that writing and sharing one's grief through writing within a community (or even more publicly, say, in an essay or book-length work) is therapeutic. Why do I say this? I taught college writing for years and was "taught" that writing could be cathartic or could help us to learn from our experiences (and those of others), but I'm not sure I believed it. Until my brother died, that is. I once wrote about him and his death all the time, it seemed. I delivered part of that writing as part of a eulogy at his memorial service. I've often shared some of the writings with others if I thought it would help them. I tried to publish one poem and several prose pieces about him or about his death. I just don't see anything wrong with what you've shared here or how you did so. I do see a lot of good that can come from it.

    I discover myself on the verge of a usual mistake. ― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

    by dannyboy1 on Thu Sep 12, 2013 at 08:01:53 AM PDT

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