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  •  I am on all day at school (4+ / 0-)
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    and I absolutely thrive. And I do well with people I don't know for the most part. I get weird around people I know.

    I am constantly searching for something to say, overcompensating, talking without thinking. It makes me anxious, and I've never been able to figure it out.

    Also, hairstylists. I hate that. I started to cut my own hair. My wife made me stop.

    I will say this for you, Chris. You did pretty well when I met you IRL considering what you describe here. I took that as "reserved", so everyone else may not be picking up on it as much as you fear. I'm usually a pretty astute judge in person and you had me fooled.

    Turning Texas starts with Wendy Davis.

    by bastrop on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 08:08:19 PM PDT

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    •  Thanks, bastrop (4+ / 0-)
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      I tend to do well around people who are my opposite. I can talk to people who are extremely talkative. I actually feel much more comfortable around them. I think that's one of the reasons I click so well with my BF. You and Bill, I can get along with very well for the same reason.

      I'm sure you're right, though, that I'm not as bad as I think I am. At least, I hope so! :)

      I don't mind if you're straight. Just don't flaunt it in public.

      by Chrislove on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 08:16:05 PM PDT

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    •  I share that with you, bastrop: (4+ / 0-)
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      I can get weird around people I know well more than around people that I don't. I also have a problem with names: it has taken me a year to learn all the names of the people in my choir. Not because I don't want to, but because I have a problem (you might not even know this) with putting face recognition with names. I have to fudge. Alot. It's stressful.

      I love being on at work, and I am on, and have always been such and you'd know because we've worked together from time to time over the years. But it exhausts me. You should see me after a rehearsal now that I just come home and crash or perhaps spend some time here. I am totally exhausted. Spent. All I want to do is curl up with my cat and maybe some KosFriends. Totally spent.

      That being said, I think it's great that people like many of us here, and you, can be "on" because we care about what we do and want to do it well. Collapsing after the many challenges we face while being "on" says a lot about our commitment to our individual crafts and talents.

      The "Shot heard 'round the world" is now known as the "Pinochet Ricochet". --commonmass

      by commonmass on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 08:17:39 PM PDT

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      •  You with names, too, huh? (4+ / 0-)

        Damn. After all these years I learn something new about my brother and I have the same problem. Amazing. I had no idea.

        Yes. It is the bane of my existence as a school teacher. I am terrible with names. And the worst part is the most obvious, I remember the names of the bad kids first. This is always the case for teachers. And the very good kids. And that leaves a big hole in the middle. It sucks.

        I have tried every trick in the book. Because I teach every child in the school, I have more faces to know than most teachers have to deal with. That's hundreds of names. I compensate in many ways. Sometimes I say no-one's  name, and nod or call everyone some version of "hey you". It is terrible. And embarrassing.

        I have one delightful student named Camilla whose name I do know, who I invariably call Pricilla before I call her Camilla. Pricilla is in the same class and I know her name, too. Or I did last year, anyway. No, I do. See? It's like that all the time.

        Often I find myself saying someones name without thinking and fear I have called the wrong one, only to congratulate myself at getting it right, then worrying that I will soon forget it. It never ends. I feel your pain, commonmass, I do.

        Woe is me, my students love me and I love them but I can't remember but two-thirds of their names, and the remaining third must think to themselves "He has never said my name when he wasn't reading it off of my paper."

        Turning Texas starts with Wendy Davis.

        by bastrop on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 09:51:24 PM PDT

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        •  I am so glad we both have the same problems (2+ / 0-)
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          with names and other things. A classroom or a choir room is not that different and yet we'd like to nail the names. Get everyone's, and really know.

          There was a time when I thought it was some kind of hubris on my part, but I later learned that it's a legitimate issue. When you and I were working together in a certain place I only knew the names of the people I went to school with. I had to work to make sure I knew the ones of the people I didn't in the band.

          It's nice not to be alone in that.

          The "Shot heard 'round the world" is now known as the "Pinochet Ricochet". --commonmass

          by commonmass on Fri Oct 04, 2013 at 09:56:41 PM PDT

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