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  •  Perhaps small steps at first? (0+ / 0-)

    Get out first (Finland sounds good...), and then seek to come here? If she's familiar with we Yankees, warts and all, then I can see her obvious attraction to coming here. I just don't think she would find it easy to get here in one step, and there may have to be an intermediate period.

    As Dreidlgirl says, she should make the relationship as official as possible, thus easing the entire family's move. Another concern that just occurred to me is legal custody for her child? That needs to be locked up airtight: the Russian government would absolutely block any emigration of the child if the biological father objects. They would probably make it happen, even if he has already given up any legal claim.

    I can easily see the need for a stealthy exit, going to Helsinki for a "vacation" and not necessarily returning.

    Honestly, I would have been surprised if she liked Putin! I think a large portion of Russian society knows him for what he is - a new, cruel Czar - and as such hate him for it. But, and it's a big but, he's too powerful to easily oppose, and vindictive to a degree unseen in the West. I'd go on, but then I'd have to write a diary...

    And yeah, I know tarantulas don't really act like that at all, so no snarking, this is the internet damnit!

    by itzadryheat on Thu Oct 17, 2013 at 07:10:42 PM PDT

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    •  It's a thought... (0+ / 0-)

      I'm giving her the link to this thread so that she can read these comments, but I know they went out of Russia a year (two?) ago to get married, so that part is probably set.  As for parental rights - her son's father is a friend and I think he signed over all rights, but it's something for her to consider.  

      In her last letter, she said something about being able to get herself out of the country easily, but the problem was getting her wife and son out with her.  I don't know all the details of what she's having to deal with but it's another reason I want to get things on this end set so she can land as easily as possible.  

      Thanks again for all this great advice.  I am sure my friend will be very grateful.  :)

      "They call it 'the American Dream' because you have to be asleep to believe it." George Carlin, 2005

      by Elasg on Fri Oct 18, 2013 at 04:54:23 AM PDT

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      •  Best of luck to her and her family! (0+ / 0-)

        It sounds like this has been on the burner for quite some time, which is not a bad thing: all the angles come to light, and they can be dealt with one at a time.

        Keep us informed, will you? I would certainly like to hear how things progress for them in their quest.

        And yeah, I know tarantulas don't really act like that at all, so no snarking, this is the internet damnit!

        by itzadryheat on Sat Oct 19, 2013 at 04:51:56 PM PDT

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