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  •  I'm not a commuter-flyer, no, but I fly very (3+ / 0-)

    often.  I've lived in Europe 6 of the past 8 years so it's pretty much mandatory.

    And you seem to think my point is to make 'friends'.

    No.  My point is to see if an interaction may make life a bit more interesting for myself or the other person.  Maybe it won't.  It usually does.

    It is actually completely against the human social impulse to NOT interact on a long-haul flight, or in an elevator, or on a subway.  People were far more talkative in such situations 10, 20, 30 years ago.  I would like to see it come back, rather than have the whole world lock itself up in its own mechanical devices.

    To each his own, of course.   Y

    •  this has been an interesting discussion from both (1+ / 0-)
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      sides. Personally, I have a book in my lap just in case something more interesting doesn't come up. I have always talked to the people around me and learned may interesting things that way, although I haven't made any permanent friends to take home with me.
         But I am fascinated by other people's walks of life and if I have a long flight, I'm actually interested in hearing your life story.
          I can still remember things I learned that made an overnight bus trip go by in minutes one time 30 years ago. And just yesterday a patron where I work commented about his 'brush with greatness' when he recently flew next to a certain famous actor, and they talked all about sailboats because they had that in common.

      But-and as they say, it's a big 'but'- when their seatmate is not interested, not everyone who considers themselves socially aware actually is. I work with someone who doesn't know when to let the conversation fade.

      We are all pupils in the eyes of God.

      by nuclear winter solstice on Wed Oct 23, 2013 at 05:06:51 AM PDT

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      •  i'm actually suprised at the amount of passion (1+ / 0-)
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        and some vehemence! it has generated.  Maybe I should write a diary on it one of these days.  I know that the majority of people don't pursue things the way I'm proposing here--I actually have put a lot of effort into testing to see how accurate our social codes and conventions actually are--in other words, are certain social taboos ACTUALLY taboo--and are certain recommended social practices (e.g. tact) always that wise?

        As for a seatmate not being interested--of course that will happen sometimes.  Sometimes I have been that seatmate, too.  So yes, you need the sense/awareness to simply leave something if it's not happening.  But that's true for any conversation, anywhere.  Usually I find that the best approach is to see if a conversation is happening early on--if so, chat for a while (not too long unless it's really animated) then there's a point to pick up on later in the fight.  If there's no connection (which happens too) then leave it alone--maybe for the whole flight, maybe pick it up again after dinner or something.  

        The strength of the anti-interaction sentiment in the thread is interesting.

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