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  •  I am not a lawyer, but ... (0+ / 0-)
    Still, I did not feel violated when she would engage in her sexual conduct with me. ... If I wanted to wage a lawsuit, I think I could have had a nice case even if the reality was that I didn't feel damaged by it in anyway. ...
    Even if you have such powers of concentration so excess to the task at hand as to be unaffected by casual groping, and even if you have the kind of job that's just as easy to perform while your manager borrows your appendages for her own entertainment, a workplace without such distractions is still your legal right. And, irrespective of attraction of either for the other, such behavior is always inappropriate when you're both on someone else's clock.

    Did you make it known to her that the interference was unwelcome? Or did you joke about it as much with her as with the rest? Legally, that could make the difference between harassment and mutual wasting of company time.

    Why is there a Confederate Flag flying in Afghanistan?

    by chimpy on Thu Nov 07, 2013 at 12:25:50 PM PST

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    •  Quite frankly, (0+ / 0-)

      I found it cringeworthy. It was laughable when I reflected back on it after hours with buddies. But at the time, it was a little cringeworthy. Not a turn on at all. BUt hey, people are wired differently.

      Guys, not all of us are wired the same. At the workplace, I have had more insulting moments which had nothing to do with sexuality.

      If we got ourselves out of boxes of how we are supposed to react to negative experiences, the world would be a lot less litigious. My job was not threatened by my refusal to go along with her groping. She would try to get me and a couple of other guys on trips to sites alone with her. I flat out refused. If that refusal cost me my job, then sure, I would be mad as hell. Otherwise, I view such experiences as her subjecting herself to ridicule instead of me playing the victim to her pathetic moves.

    •  As far as mutual joking, (0+ / 0-)

      no encouragement from me. In fact, once she had to force my hand on her bare shoulder because she wanted me to feel how warm it got there!!! Before that moment, she was refusing to take no for an answer when I would say ":that's OK, I dont have to feel it. I am good"

      I just thought to myself "wow, is she seriously that pathetic?" And then I moved on and did my work. I did not waste company time. You think people work every second at work?

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