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  •  Yesterday, my pre-teen daughter wanted (8+ / 0-)

    to know what she could do about her non-head hair that was growing a bit more than she desired over the past year or so.  My spouse is always squeamish about other people's bodies - including our kids - so, I now have a patch of hair missing from my forearm from demonstrating ways she could consider shaving herself.  She kind of got it when trying for herself during a regular shower, so another area of taking responsibility for aspects of her own body is happening - just one small part of many personal ownership+responsibility moments over the years.

    I have also spoken to her and her brother on practical matters about their bodies when it comes to changes in their physiology (e.g., breast growth, erections, etc.) and they know about the idea of sex for themselves, how to understand peer pressure related to their bodies in an Internet-shares-everything world, how sex between adults relates to reproduction, etc. in age-appropriate manners over time.

    To me, these are simple ways to help enable our kids for better understanding and taking control of their own bodies and what they do with them - based on their informed choices - over time.  With the backup that they can always come to us for non-judging questions/advice and even protection.

    So, when I read things such as this judge's report, although I can understand wanting to rehabilitate any convicted offender - especially child sexual abusers - and give them a chance to stop hurting the lives of our kids, what kind of message is sent to the people I'm trying to enable my kids to say, "No!" to if they get these light slaps on the wrist for major violations of bodies and trust?  What more can we do to help our own kids learn what's appropriate vs. what's obviously wrong+harmful if the adults in charge are not punishing gross trespasses of trust that kids put in us?

    This judge seems to have failed to consider the victim and actual crimes, among other things.

    "So, please stay where you are. Don't move and don't panic. Don't take off your shoes! Jobs is on the way."

    by wader on Fri Nov 15, 2013 at 08:47:01 AM PST

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