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  •  Have faith in yourself and hang in there (7+ / 0-)

    I have never been divorced, but I am a single mom and have been since Day 1.  Sounds like you may be doing the bulk of the parenting (is your soon to be ex no longer living nearby, or does he want out of the picture as a father?)  

    Being a single parent can be a very lonely experience at times, especially when you are dealing with a sick child, an issue at school, or any other challenge - and you don't have a partner to talk it out with, brainstorm with, or simply have by your side.  That's the part that was the most difficult for me - heavy decisions resting entirely on my shoulders.  

    Good for you that you are taking care of yourself, working out, and getting healthier.  That's an important boost to your self esteem :)

    As to the dating - everyone is different.  I tried dating when my child was younger, and it just didn't work out well.  Between working full time, my son in after school daycare, our time together was pretty precious.  I did not feel comfortable cutting into that time by dating.  And a couple of the men I dated thought I would appreciate parenting advice or them stepping in to discipline my son.  That was most definitely neither wanted nor welcome.

    So I made the decision to not date until my son was older, and that worked for me.  But I know that's a less common choice.  

    Good luck on the job front.  You sound like a strong and focused individual, and I wish you and your child the best.

    •  He's involved (1+ / 0-)
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      but it's the usual every other weekend, so it leaves me with a lot of the usual stuff.  He's a great Dad and we're good friends.

      "It feels like President Obama still hasn't won. It never ends" - my very astute 9-year old watching MSNBC.

      by Ellinorianne on Wed Nov 20, 2013 at 03:47:06 PM PST

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      •  I am glad to hear that :) (0+ / 0-)

        I wasn't sure from your initial wording.  Know very well what you mean by bulk of the parenting, even when the other parent does have custodial time.  I'm glad that you and your ex seem amicable and both are invested in the well being of your child.  It makes things so much easier..

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