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  •  Most of us run into this guy at some point in our (7+ / 0-)

    careers.  A crazy.  It is, however, unfortunate when you run into one so early on in your career, but I have heard a few stories from some young people who have.  

    The main thing is to realize that there really are people out there who will try to tank you.  Sad but true.  It is hard to tell who they are.  It is even more difficult when they hire you or are above you in rank.  

    However, you can't let them win.  I agree with other comments here that you have to fight fire with fire. Don't be afraid to say you could not work with this man for ethical reasons.  Don't bear the burden of his nuttiness.  He's the nut.  Not you.

    In today's world, interruptions in employment are not unusual, they are commonplace.  Besides, you have a solid record--it doesn't boil down to this twirp.

    Above all, don't let him win.  Don't let him define you or your future.  Categorize him--and don't be afraid to categorize him to your potential employers--describe the work situation as untenable, due to ethical differences.  

    Good luck.  You sound like a very smart, educated person.  You'll be okay.  Stay strong.

    If the plutocrats begin the program, we will end it. -- Eugene Debs.

    by livjack on Thu Dec 05, 2013 at 04:27:50 PM PST

    •  Thank you. (3+ / 0-)
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      Thank you for your comment. I'm certainly ready to fight fire with fire, and I've let it be known the circumstances for my unemployment.

      Thank you. I intend to keep on fighting through this, and hopefully writing about my struggles can help others too.

      Originally from Missouri, Kristen currently resides in Southern California. Femmes du Chaos, a book of short stories featuring strong female characters, is out now. You may find her at www.facebook.com/kristenduvallwriter.

      by KristenD on Thu Dec 05, 2013 at 05:24:35 PM PST

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    •  I'm working with one right now (3+ / 0-)
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      but she isn't my boss...a social worker with an obvious personality disorder. She told me off today in front of everyone. So who looked crazy? My brother in law is a draftsman who has had trouble finding steady full time work. He works for a guy when projects are available. So when a steady gig came up he was thrilled. The owner of that company turned out to be a sick bastard. After a week he told my BIL he wasn't sure if he would keep him on after the next week. My BIL,  proud Colombian, said i'll save you the trouble, i'mleaving now! And with that he threw the keys on his desk and left. back to part time work. I've had many nutty bosses; from a sadistic fishing boat captain who loved to curse a you in front of patrons, to a narcissistic English dept head who bragged he had denied tenure to more people than all other supervisors combined, to a principal who falsified fire drill records and a superintendent of a jail who dressed in purple as an African queen for her birthday. I had a supervisor who wrote me up for being late because I stopped to help a colleague with MS whose electric wheelchair stalled in the parking lot. I am a union man to a fault!

      •  I can relate... (4+ / 0-)

        The day before I was let go, my boss came to me and yelled at me about a mistake he said I'd made weeks into starting the job. I panicked, I searched my records and couldn't find the papers he said I'd received. Come to find out, he had misheard the message... the client was asking if he'd accidentally sent something to us, something I wasn't supposed to be getting anyway... and no, I hadn't. So it was all good. But my boss yelled at me anyway, said I needed to be better organized so I didn't lose things (how can I lose things I didn't get, that I wasn't supposed to be getting???) and instead of causing a scene, I told him I'd do better. I didn't defend myself. I hadn't done anything wrong, but I figured smiling, nodding and saying I would do better was the answer.

        Apparently not.

        And that was just the tip of the iceberg...Just a snapshot of what my days were like there.

        Originally from Missouri, Kristen currently resides in Southern California. Femmes du Chaos, a book of short stories featuring strong female characters, is out now. You may find her at www.facebook.com/kristenduvallwriter.

        by KristenD on Thu Dec 05, 2013 at 05:50:11 PM PST

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        •  Ya can't win with these people (1+ / 0-)
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          if you stand up to them they fire or harass you more, if play nice that only emboldens them to act more cruelly. This bastard will get his comeuppance, and if you stay in the same field his name will come up again and you'll see eye rolls. Nothing you can do would have changed a thing. But you can warn others. Don't be afraid to call your replacement and let em know the guy is a sick bastard. One trick is to call the person who had the job before you if you can and ask why he/she left and what kind of place it is to work. I did that before taking a job in the jail. Things are bad now but sooner or later people will be hiring you and the day might even come where you can pick and choose. in my job now, for example, I would tell new hires that we are understaffed and that won't change, so be ready to be overworked.

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