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    her an out, she can tell you if she doesn't want to talk about it.

    Sometimes, people will open up to a relative stranger.  Ed, my brother-in-law's father was a Colonel in Vietnam who would never talk about his war experiences.  Until my husband (an in-law and bare acquaintance) asked one day at a crab picking, and Ed talked for more than an hour about Viet Nam, what he did, where he served, and what it was like when one of his fire bases was overrun.  My brother-in-law listened in astonishment, and that afternoon heard more from his dad than he ever did before.

    I'd have thought that was lightning striking.  But he did it again, with our tenant's mother, who lived in Berlin during WWII and made it through the Russian forces and into the American zone dressed as a boy.  She had never talked about Germany to her children, but my husband asked a single question and the stories came tumbling out.

    The fact is, (not always, but) sometimes, just sometimes, people want their stories remembered.

    "I speak the truth, not as much as I would, but as much as I dare, and I dare a little the more, as I grow older." --Montaigne

    by DrLori on Fri Dec 06, 2013 at 02:09:39 PM PST

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    •  DrLori I sometimes (3+ / 0-)
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      think that the traumatic impacts of the horrors servicemen and women experienced in those conflicts are buried so deep in their consciousness that they ache when they remember, thus I think that their minds surpress the willingness to talk about them.

      I remember a man that came back from World War II where he served in battle ships while in the Navy. Even in the Navy I am today amazed at how I remember this man`s shell-shocked brain as he screamed in his sleep as his mother used to say. Screaming as if a torpedo was approaching as the many he obviously saw coming at his ship. Shell-shocked brains, I have to imagine must cause some horrific war experiences to ingrain and establish itself for a prolong period of time on a person.

      This man never talked about his experiences and he lived just a few houses where I grew up. Yes, I think it must have been hell, as I have often heard those years described.

      Old men tell same old stories

      by Ole Texan on Fri Dec 06, 2013 at 03:38:53 PM PST

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    •  The three most important words are not (3+ / 0-)
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      "I love you."

      They are: "I SEE you."   In all your individual glory.

      Joy shared is doubled. Pain shared is halved. Spider Robinson

      by nolagrl on Fri Dec 06, 2013 at 10:57:28 PM PST

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