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  •  Knowing how far to intervene is very difficult. (23+ / 0-)

    We had a person with major problems seeing come into the library and ask about books for the blind. Then she said she was going home and found her way back out again. We thought she had walked there so we left her alone. Then we heard her jingle the car keys as she went out the door. What next? She had driven herself there and had all her faculties except most of her vision...This is still an ethical dilemma for us.
     

    We are all pupils in the eyes of God.

    by nuclear winter solstice on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 05:07:15 AM PST

    •  Notify the DMV. (4+ / 0-)

      Or perhaps a family member. Most states have provisions for re-testing people who can no longer drive safely.

      "A lie is not the other side of a story; it's just a lie."

      by happy camper on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 11:46:56 AM PST

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      •  What we did with the mother in law is we told her (3+ / 0-)

        family doctor who promptly notified the Bureau of Motor Vehicles and basically got her license taken away from her.

        She has been driving recklessly for a few years, lived next door to a daycare center.  We were getting calls that the kids and caregivers and parents were worried she was going ot hit a child.  We were getting reports of her reckless driving from people all over the place.

        Calling the doctor solved the problem, in our case.

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        by wishingwell on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 12:50:50 PM PST

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        •  This happened (2+ / 0-)

          with an elderly member of my family. Everyone knew he was starting to lose his ability to drive safely, and the final straw was when he declared one day that he WAS a safe driver, because he never went faster than 30-35 mph. No matter where he was driving.

          A call to the DMV put an end to that.

          "A lie is not the other side of a story; it's just a lie."

          by happy camper on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 01:27:12 PM PST

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        •  Did she willingly stop driving once she lost (2+ / 0-)

          her license? I suspect there's more struggle you had to engage in....

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          by catilinus on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 01:31:42 PM PST

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          •  It was a struggle that went on for years as she is (2+ / 0-)

            also quite mentally ill and regularly would stop speaking to her kids. She has not spoken to my husband for years because he has tried to help her.  

            We got lucky about the driving as she was going to buy a car and keep driving as her car died about the time she lost her license. My sister in law call the car dealership and told them not to sell her a car as she did not have a drivers license and she would drive a car off the lot.  We more or less told car dealers not to even consider selling her a car even if she paid in cash. They cooperated with us which was good.

            My husband and his sister tried for well over a decade to get her to quit driving but it took nearly 15 years for a doctor to finally help us get it taken away. As we tried everything and this is all that worked.

            She is now in a nursing home as she had to leave an assisted living facility for assaulting the staff. She is quite volatile due to her severe paranoia.

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            by wishingwell on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 04:20:18 PM PST

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            •  Am so sorry to hear that it has been such a (1+ / 0-)
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              battle. It is heartbreaking to read your post both from what you've said and what I can guess you've suffered between the lines.

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              by catilinus on Wed Dec 18, 2013 at 11:40:21 PM PST

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