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View Diary: “Queer” Is Not Just A Synonym For “Gay.” (67 comments)

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  •  I think that an identity is about more (0+ / 0-)

    than just physical arousal. Erotic attraction has multiple components to it. It can at times be a very physical thing and at other times more mental. The same person can experience it in different ways in different situations.

    The problem is people trying to force other people to think and feel the way that they think they do.

    •  Doesn't erotic attraction (0+ / 0-)

      come with physical arousal by definition?  Does one experience physical arousal without erotic attraction (excluding coersion)?  I'm trying to understand the distinction you are making.  

      •  There is the walking down the street (0+ / 0-)

        sort of arousal from just looking at a total stranger that you know nothing about. There is a more indirect form of attraction that can lead to arousal in sharing pleasant and affectionate experiences with a person who might not knock you over walking down the street.

        Sexual relations as such don't really work between people who are just good friends, but there is more than one way to arrive at a destination.

        The brain works at different levels. The mid brain where the limbic system is located is the old evolutionary mamalian brain. It is the source of sudden reactions like flight or flight. The cerebral cortex has its own routes to erotic sensations.  

    •  The (ahem) 'young people today', notably (4+ / 0-)

      the tumblr community, have taken that analysis much further than us old folks. It's worth spending some time investigating.

      And back to my original point -- that very complexity makes the word 'choice' an, um, bad choice. Because it's commonly understood as a definitive binary -- there's a 'choice' between two options, and people are expected to stick with their decisions or face moral opprobrium.  

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