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  •  30 years of papers. sounds daunting. (10+ / 0-)

    and yet it is a task you can't hire someone else to do, because they have no idea what is valuable in terms of memories

    i know people who have done big jobs like that very very slowly.  15 minutes at a time, taking many months to see progress.

    you are wise to get started while your mother is still alive.  she might even be able to tell you stories about some of the artifacts that would make you cherish them even more

    Politics is like driving. To go backward put it in R. To go forward put it in D.
    DEMAND CREATES JOBS!!!
    Drop by The Grieving Room on Monday nights to talk about grief.

    by TrueBlueMajority on Mon Feb 17, 2014 at 05:42:29 PM PST

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    •  I wish (7+ / 0-)

      Her dementia gives me only brief windows into the past.  I've heard many of the stories, but there's so much more I'll never know, particularly about my dad's family.

      There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast.

      by puzzled on Mon Feb 17, 2014 at 06:08:07 PM PST

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      •  oh, i'm so sorry (6+ / 0-)

        dementia is the long goodbye

        Politics is like driving. To go backward put it in R. To go forward put it in D.
        DEMAND CREATES JOBS!!!
        Drop by The Grieving Room on Monday nights to talk about grief.

        by TrueBlueMajority on Mon Feb 17, 2014 at 06:49:16 PM PST

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      •  Dementia is such a sad thing (6+ / 0-)

        for the offspring, it hurts us so much to see our mother slipping away, decade-by-decade being lost. I visited my mother, just after her 94th birthday last month, and was dumbfounded when on my last day there she crept out with her walker and asked "didn't I sell this house?". She was referring to her natal house in Elwood IN. But it took me aback, explaining that yes, she sold that house but this is the house that you have been living in for 55 years in KY.

        There were some "new" stories, but currently I am jaded, as is my sister, that those might be false memories. We will never know. The best new memory was how she met my father: she had somehow made it to Louisville to work in a munitions plant during WWII. So few cars were available, that she was told to go stand on the KY side of one of the bridges spanning the Ohio River, and a carpool would pick her up there. A car stopped, my father opened the door for her, and voila, a few months (?) later they were married.

        My mother is the last survivor of that generation for me.

        Hugs to you, puzzled.

        Americans, while occasionally willing to be serfs, have always been obstinate about being peasantry. F. Scott Fitzgerald, the Great Gatsby

        by riverlover on Tue Feb 18, 2014 at 02:24:19 AM PST

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