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  •  ............... (3+ / 0-)
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    Richard Lyon, Chrislove, bastrop

    I think I understand it a lot more than you do.

    The fact that you think it's an either/or thing proves to me that it is, in fact, YOU who is out of your depth.

    But you have a good night, and thanks for the personal insults.

    P.S. I am not a crackpot.

    by BoiseBlue on Sun Jan 05, 2014 at 06:06:12 PM PST

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    •  My apologies (0+ / 0-)

      if you felt my comments were personal insults. I truly did not mean for them to be.

      I think it is an either/or thing for most people (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or asexual), but I did not say that I don't think that there could be an extremely few exceptions.

      •  I didn't *feel* they were personal insults (6+ / 0-)

        They ARE personal insults.

        You are the one who doesn't understand the conversation you're in. You're arguing that orientation doesn't change and I never stated that it did.

        That you read my comments as such shows that you are way behind in this conversation.

        And anyway, I'm done here. This conversation, of all the ones I've been in, is not the one for me to flame out over and I'm way too sensitive tonight to deal with people like you, who personally insult me just because you don't understand the conversation that you joined.

        I'm just not sure that you really really understand what sexual orientation is.
        I'm just not sure that she understands the issue that well.

        Thank you for the patronizing tone, but remember that you are the one who got so confused that you said

         I don't know Boise Blue (1+ / 0-)

        well enough to determine if I agree with him that his sexual orientation changes

        when I never said such a thing, and when you were too lazy to look at what I actually wrote before proclaiming something so utterly stupid, and when you tried to claim you had read my comments when they clearly stated over and over and over that I'm a lesbian, and you have the audacity to say that I don't know what I'm talking about, while also making it clear that you didn't even read one of my comments.

        Goodnight, and good luck. I'll refrain from telling you how you don't know what the fucking you're talking or how you don't understand the topic, but I think you've made that clear enough for everyone here that I don't even have to mention it.

        P.S. I am not a crackpot.

        by BoiseBlue on Sun Jan 05, 2014 at 06:26:02 PM PST

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        •  Richard Lyon (0+ / 0-)

          told me that you were someone who either thought that sexual orientation changes or whose sexual orientation did change back and forth. Some of your comments that I had read at the time indicated that maybe you did.

          Again, my apologies. I did not mean to offend you.

          I may not yet understand where you are coming from with all the comments that have been made thus far. But, I assure you that I know the subject matter of this diary. And, I am simply giving my point of view as are others.

          •  Put down the shovel (5+ / 0-)

            Because you already claimed that you read my comments and based your opinion on that, now you're saying that you're basing your opinion on something that some anonymous person on the internet told you I said, and claiming that they're false because.... I don't understand the topic?

            And then dish out insults because you can't follow the conversation?

            Again, I suggest to you that it is you who does not understand what is happening, is out of your depth in this conversation, and perhaps should refrain from insulting members who can follow a thread all the way through.

            That is, if another anonymous commenter here tells you it's okay to do so. If he doesn't, well, then feel free to base all of your opinions on what is happening here on a comment he makes. Because' that's, like, totes scientific.

            P.S. I am not a crackpot.

            by BoiseBlue on Sun Jan 05, 2014 at 06:56:30 PM PST

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            •  When you are at the bottom of a hole (3+ / 0-)
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              it is time to stop digging.

            •  Oh wow! (0+ / 0-)

              Let's see. You have said good night and/or that you would not be back on to comment how many times now, and you keep coming back.

              Well, here is at least one:

              And anyway, I'm done here. This conversation, of all the ones I've been in, is not the one for me to flame out over and I'm way too sensitive tonight to deal with people like you, who personally insult me just because you don't understand the conversation that you joined.
              Well, you think I don't know what I am talking about. And, I am still not sure that you do. I can handle that. I'm certainly NOT going to "flame out" in any case.

              Richard Lyon stated what I told you. Was I suppose to call him a liar? It sounded as if he knew you. And, I had read your comments at the time. I'm still not impressed, but please do not "flame out" about it.

              I've apologized how many times now? Three, I think maybe. At any rate, I'm sure one more will not help. I'll leave you to simmer in your vitriol and self-righteous indignation. I promise not to "flame out" over it.

              Yeah, the shovel is down ... not to worry.

              •  here's the thing... (1+ / 0-)
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                I am incredibly patient and tolerant. But when my fuse blows, it blows. And I fully admit that when it blows, I become irrational.

                My fuse blew because of something silly: that Dave rec'd your comment that said I don't know what I'm talking about. And I fully admitted that I'm incredibly sensitive tonight because I know that I am. I am in a fuckton of pain and it takes all I have to not cry, so silly little things, like a rec on a comment that insults me, can make me cry.

                That is why I said I'm out.

                But at the same time, I lost my patience and once that happens, I cannot sleep.

                I lost my patience with you because you are intolerable. For that, I apologize, because I rarely lose my patience, and the fact that I did has more to do with outside circumstances that are testing my nerves than it does with your petty little comments and laughable misunderstandings.

                Let's break this down in a way that someone as simple as you can understand: You still admit to basing your opinion on what Mr. Lyon said, while at the same time still demanding that we offer scientific proof. Does it still not occur to you how incredibly hypocritical and stupid that is?

                Lastly, your apologies mean nothing, because a sincere apology demands that the person apologizing understand how and where they went so incredibly wrong, and you still don't get that.

                I'd say goodnight, but I can't sleep and you're easy bait. You really make this too easy. It's like shooting fish in a bucket, and I've got nothing to do but sit here in pain and point out how stupid some people can be.

                Yes, it makes me feel slightly better, but the swelling has not gone down yet.

                P.S. I am not a crackpot.

                by BoiseBlue on Sun Jan 05, 2014 at 08:40:48 PM PST

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                •  Ok. (0+ / 0-)

                  So, now I'm petty, simple, and stupid. And, you accuse me of insult? That's priceless.

                  I'm soooo glad that your ranting has made you feel better. Rant on! The homophobes do it to me, so why not you as well.

                  Your own pity party is also very touching. Did it ever occur to you that someone else might be going through "stuff" as well. Probably not. You're tooooo busy patting yourself on the back with how well you"shoot fish in a barrel."

                  Is it soooo terrible of me to trust what a fellow gay poster says on this blog? I'd prefer to believe people until I have a reason not to. And, you have certainly let me know my trust was misplaced. So, there's that. Whether sexual orientation changes or not is a different issue, because it sooooo greatly affects what happens to us in the legal system (at this time). So, yes, this requires empirical data as far as I'm concerned. And, who knows? It may prove you correct. But, it has not yet as far as I can see.

                  So, you can read my mind and my heart with regard to how sincere I am in apologizing? Nice to know.

                  Rant on!

                  •  Good night (0+ / 0-)

                    For real this time.

                    I was pretty hard on you in hopes that eventually you would get it, but you obviously won't. That was a failing on my part. I probably should have handled it with kid gloves instead of assuming we could all be adults here.

                    I wasn't patting myself on the back: I was apologizing to you for being too hard on you when I should have practiced more patience.

                    But now that I know you truly are incapable of comprehending anything I write (which I truly think is more attributable to you being stubborn and wrong than it is an intellectual failure), I really am out.

                    It would have been nice if we could have engaged on more pleasant terms, but since you don't seem interested in doing so this conversation has no benefit to you, me, or anyone else who has the misfortune of stumbling across it.

                    I'm going to bed. You can have the last word, and I honestly don't give a fuck how you want to insult me from here on out.

                    P.S. I am not a crackpot.

                    by BoiseBlue on Sun Jan 05, 2014 at 09:24:13 PM PST

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                    •  BoiseBlue, (0+ / 0-)

                      I am not your brother ... either one of them. I am a gay man, and I am on your side even if we do NOT agree about everything. We have to learn to agree to disagree. I think we could have a more fruitful conversation, but this one tonight simply degenerated into something much worse ... probably because of outside circumstances for you. me, and possibly others here tonight. We have to learn to be a little gentler with each other. I was too rough too. And, I apologize. I also accept your apology even if you will not accept mine. Good night and peace.

                •  Oh, and no, (0+ / 0-)

                  you are NOT incredibly patient and tolerant ... certainly not tonight. I think "irrational" (your own word, not mine) probably describes you.

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