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  •  Thanks, Marti! (12+ / 0-)

    We have the neighbors we critter-sit and exchange gifts at Christmastime, and they have a daughter now 16 years old.
    She's a straight-A student!
    She's also Goth with lots of ennui or that sulky mood thing.
    Since she went Goth, she reminds me of Winona Ryder's character in Beetlejuice.
    Twice, we have mentioned college, and both times they give us the stare and finally last Christmas, they told us that college is for liberals and if a kid isn't a liberal going in, they'll be one coming out.
    So, we ask the teen what she wants to do when she graduates high school and she wants to become a tattoo artist!
    Her mother rolled her eyes and the dad just sits there, and we had no idea what to say, except mr.AzB did ask if that's actually a career.
    It's such a shame that they don't encourage her to go to college, imvho, because she is so very good in school and smart.

    Pray for peace, love and rain!

    by arizonablue on Wed Jan 15, 2014 at 06:24:29 PM PST

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    •  It's a shame when parents are so out of their (6+ / 0-)

      depth when it comes to guiding their children into adulthood.  While I loved Winona Ryder's character in Beetlejuice, I wouldn't want to live with her during her mal d'ennui phase.  A swift kick in the reality would shake that loose, but there are easier ways to get it done.

       Even mediocre tattooists have to work damned hard to make a living..  Good ones have to work harder.  And while it seems that Hollywood will do a "reality show" about watching paint dry, they reject so many for each one that gets on tv for a week or two.  And the cancellation rates are mind boggling.

      College isn't for everyone. Just those who want to learn something. But there are trade schools and other places of learning that can make a huge difference.  As my mum used to say, "Do what you love and the money will follow."  I did.  I think my Love lost the map.  Its prolly halfway to sidepocket's by now!

      Sometimes, if we ask the right questions, the seeds get planted.  I've learned that we cannot inflict knowledge, but we can open doors or windows to let in a breath of fresh air and a new way of thinking.  Until the guy at the other end of the bar starts whingin about his tax forms. (Get a room, buddy!!!)  Cheap bastid.  Never busy a round for the boys.

      If you are so inclined....give ol' Goth Sadie a place to ask questions and get sensible answers .  Let her ask.  Tell the truth.  Ask her if her plans include paying her own way...not just rent and food, but a car and upkeep and healthcare (what if one of those tattoo needles is invedted??  what about preventative care?)  Is she gonna have a pet?  Vet's charge money and pets are funny about eating every day.  Lots of stuff to think about ....and make a plan for before taking that leap into the void.'  But tattos are a currently popular expression used by many, many people.  Doing a good job on an intricate tattoo can be as satisfying as any other well done project in any office.

      I wouldn't tell the parental units that she'll probably come out of it all as a blazing pinko commie radical socialist liberal with delusions of being a citizen.  That's just a bonus.  heh.

      Mostly, I guess....just listen to her.  She is probably trying on different versions of herself, for now.  Let her know she's normal in her play and and experimenting, and there will be no final exam before she is launched into adulthood.  Just be honest as you can be.  Kids get b.s.ed all the time.  They value honesty when they can trust it.

      Gee.  Aren't you glad you asked?  (snort)
      Blessings on all a y'all.

      We cannot call ourselves a civilised society if we refuse to protect the weakest among us.

      by The Marti on Wed Jan 15, 2014 at 07:10:27 PM PST

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