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  •  Well, that's the other problem with homeschooling. (1+ / 0-)
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    mrkvica

    In the vast majority of the time, it means mom stays at home. When you let public schools erode, it's another form of backlash against feminism.

    •  True, to an extent, (6+ / 0-)

      In my mothers case, she was a stay-at-home mother before I began to homeschool, and has remained at home after my graduation from college.  I would say that 'housewife' was a career goal for her.  I find that sad - a definite waste of potential - but it was her choice.

      The concern doesn't quite feel real to me, tho, perhaps because among my friends and family, I know few couples for whom the typical gender dynamics are relevant.  One set of friends has a stay-at-home dad, another has two mothers, and I'm likely as not to be the stay-at-home parent if I was to have a child.

      I'm not sure I can see 'fucked up gender constructs' as a problem with homeschooling.  It is certainly a very real problem for society, but it doesn't feel right to blame stay-at-home parenting for the biases that are channeled into it.

    •  Also, to be clear, I like public schools - (9+ / 0-)

      If I owe my life and career to homeschooling in high school, I owe my life and career doubly so to Mrs. Beverly Filer, my middle school special ed teacher, who ushered me through a near-total inability to write to being able to write for fun, and from a near-total inability to interact with my peers to being a teacher and tutor and even a leader.

      I am strongly opposed to the continued erosion of public schools - but I also see homeschooling as a potential 'out' for parents who face a school situation that is already untenable.  Good schools are the best option, almost always (although even the best schools can have serious bullying problems, I think - and that alone can be reason enough to need to get your child out), but good schools are becoming rarer and rarer, as even the best teachers are forced to conform to the NCLB formula, or are forced to get higher-paying jobs like busing tables or greeting at walmart.  We definitely must fight for better schools for the future, but each parent has to choose to do the best they can for their children, now.

    •  It also means one parent can afford to stay home. (1+ / 0-)
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      •  I think that's the more potent argument - (1+ / 0-)
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        peregrine kate

        There's a very definite 'privilege' aspect.  It takes an increasingly unusual set of upper middle class (or higher) circumstances to afford just one working parent, without massive sacrifices.

        Again, though, I don't feel this is a problem with homeschooling so much as it is a problem with society in general.

      •  Not true (2+ / 0-)
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        Debby, Leslie in KY

        my sister was a single parent (dad was in jail), and she managed to scrape things together to not only homeschool her sons, but the oldest just got accepted to MIT on a full scholarship.

      •  not necessarily (0+ / 0-)

        It does mean the family has to be resourceful and committed.  

        Where I live, people of all income levels are homeschooling, including some with kids on Medicaid.   So they are definitely poor.  

        For myself, I was able to work flexible part-time hours in home health and as the kids got older and more independent I moved to full-time by the time they were high school age.

        For a friend of mine with a child with ADHD, she and her husband worked out alternate work schedules combined with some childcare for the years their son needed homeschooling.  He then chose on his own to go to high school.  

        Not everyone is or can be  resourceful and committed to the degree needed.  But the notion that there has to be a traditional "dad works mom stays at home family" is not represented in the real diversity of homeschooling families.

    •  Uh--Wow. You know no one will value Women's (2+ / 0-)
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      Catesby, paxpi

      Work, until women learn to value it themselves.

      My work at home would be very valuable if it wasn't equated with something that any drooling idiot could do one hand tied behind their back.

      And I am a Feminist.

      Gentlemen, congratulations. You're everything we've come to expect from years of government training (Zed, MIB).

      by GreenMother on Mon Jan 20, 2014 at 05:43:49 PM PST

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    •  But not always (0+ / 0-)

      many women enjoy the role.

      My sister was an executive at Bear Stearns before her husband left her high and dry, and yet she still made he own choice, a few years later, to scrabble the money together to homeschool her kids.

      And she is an atheist.

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