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  •  That's a great line (1+ / 0-)
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    FarWestGirl

    bow to Mr. Cosby

    Arrange marriage is still very common in Japan.
    In fact a lot of my friends got married that way.
    And I agree, I don't see much objection.
    Since family play a big role in Japanese society, seem like a safer bet.
    (But I also cannot deny the fact, extramarital affair is very common)

    And boarder of the arrange marriage and force marriage is very vague.

    Just like another caller who called in to speak,
    she protested the forced marriage never took the place.
    which totally contradicted the host, since they came from the same society.

    Then the host explained, there is.
    The caller may not think that was forced, but there are a lot of coercion and manipulation which is really difficult for young people to say no to. And I totally agreed.

    I really believe there are some culture, just simply bad.
    The human right should always tramped that.

    •  The definition and expectations of 'marriage' make (0+ / 0-)

      a big difference, too. In some older cultures, 'marriage' was more an alliance between families and a chance to combine resources, (land, money, trade routes, livestock, etc), or attach to a dynasty than a personal relationship between two people. And individuals were allowed or even expected to have personal relationships, (affairs of the heart), outside the confines of the alliance, as long as they fulfilled their obligation to their family interests. So those 'marriages' were more like family partnerships, the husband and wife weren't expected to fulfill their spouse's personal wants and needs. But more people today expect 'marriage' to be personal first and anything beyond that is a bonus, so the expectations are completely different.

      lol I heard Mr Cosby say that line more than 30 years ago and it struck me as so perfect at the time that I can still hear him saying it in my mind. :-)

      Information is abundant, wisdom is scarce. ~The Druid.
      ~Ideals aren't goals, they're navigation aids.~

      by FarWestGirl on Fri Feb 07, 2014 at 12:16:23 PM PST

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      •  "your right to punch me stop where my nose start" (0+ / 0-)

        and where exactly your nose start
        is the question

        every culture has the great meaning
        and support by many

        but what about
        dolphin hunting?

        They are doing within their territory.
        Nobody nose was anywhere near them

        But ...

        If you think about it,
        culture has a lot of gray area

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