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  •  Dude, srsly? - you closed your eyes? (0+ / 0-)

    Or put duct tape over the parts of the screen that showed their profile pictures? REALLY? REALLY!?! Not even one leettle peek- they all had some blank computer silhouette figure as a place holder?

    Or maybe you looked at a whole scrolling page full of pictures+intros, thought "she looks nice" then read the profiles of that group, then - yes, after reading what they wrote - picked those two out of that weeded down "nice-looking".. and THAT'S how you got mean-girled on...

    How many Lesser Mortals did you screen out first, like picking through a catalog of girls? Honestly?

    Yes, live! Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death! ~ Auntie Mame

    by Cinnamon on Sun Feb 09, 2014 at 01:47:01 PM PST

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    •  Sorry to disappoint you... (6+ / 0-)

      ...but I do read profiles over looking at photos. I am actually very unhappy that Match changed it so you see a photo gallery instead of a photo, a headline and a brief part of the profile. Also, I very rarely look at body type because everyone has a different definition of what "Curvy", "About Average," etc. mean. I

      I never once said anyone was a lesser mortal, nor have I ever insulted anyone.

      "Republicans only care about the rich" - George W. Andersen - my late Father (-8.25, -7.85)

      by Mark E Andersen on Sun Feb 09, 2014 at 01:55:55 PM PST

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      •  I didn't think you insulted anyone (2+ / 0-)
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        But I've used the medium myself, and everyone has pictures on their profiles. It's part of the format. It works as its own filter. A particular result of the online dating site format is that people who are the most photogenic get more attention and responses, and pick and choose and make their own selections based on visual cues as well.  It's visual, even at a brief glimpse. And it really is like a shopping catalog for people.... with all the inherent creepiness to it that implies. Also,

        And I'm not saying you shouldn't look at the pictures. Not at all -- just saying that knowing those sites, you got blasted with 5-500 different profiles -- so in weeding them out, you may, unwittingly, have bypassed several very nice women who may not have been as photogenic as the ones you gravitated towards.

        Also... um, you know all those profiles? Many of them aren't' even real people. Google "fake profiles on dating site" - the companies themselves have been sued for using models' and porn stars' images for fake profiles, jsut to drive traffic.

        The mean girls were horrid to you. Absolutely. And you didnt' treat anyone like that yourself, and you didn't deserve it. And the best thing you can take away from that is that you won't waste time with such shallow, nasty people.

        Yes, live! Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death! ~ Auntie Mame

        by Cinnamon on Sun Feb 09, 2014 at 02:22:26 PM PST

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        •  not everyone posts pictures! (1+ / 0-)
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          I realize we're an anomaly in many ways (and also, we're not heterosexual), but when we met online several years ago, my beloved and I not only didn't post pictures on our respective online profiles, but we also fell in love before we knew with the other looked like. (and yes, it turned out that we are very physically attracted to each other as well).

          I think the diarist's practice of focusing on the profiles over the pics speaks to the high quality he would bring to a real relationship.

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