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  •  Fair enough (0+ / 0-)

    As a photographer with emotions all a-glow, tho, I've gotten photos of some people at events that truly memorialized the day - the awe on a child's face that I saw while others were watching the main event, for instance. I really do think my emotional investment makes my photos better.

    Another commenter, tho, suggested that a lack of emotional investment shouldn't (very true) and probably wouldn't (maybe) make a difference. But would a professional who didn't really want to be there have even seen that child's awestruck face, much less have taken a picture of it?

    I don't know.

    •  I'm married and have attended many, many weddings (0+ / 0-)

      (because I'm old) and, quite frankly, the professional photographer has all he/she can do to document the main events going on.  You were free to get the face of that child because you didn't have to worry about a bride saying, "You missed the shot were I was saying my vows for this?!?"  Wedding photographers are not being paid to provide artsy shots of obscure subjects.  No offense to the quality of your pictures, but you are the unpaid back-up who can afford to spend his time getting shots that don't further the wedding narrative.  The professional photographer can't do that.  If that sounds formulaic, it probably is, but it also one of the basic features of the job.

      I would also point out that most professional photographers have to be somewhat detached from their subjects or they can't capture what their subjects are going through.  Think of a news photographer who got too involved or emotionally invested in what he was doing -- he'd be too busy trying to help the people he saw and not documenting what was happening to them.

      That's true of most service professions, now that I think of it.  You don't want a doctor who's so emotional he can't treat you or a financial planner who's too attached to your money (the way you are) to make investment decisions and take some risks.

      The bottom line is that wedding photographers are doing a job, and saying you can't do as good a job unless you "approve" of the particular couple that is gettng married means you really shouldn't be in that job because you can't behave like a professional.

      •  An interesting perspective, to be sure (0+ / 0-)

        When I wrote the diary, I was thinking of the (IMHO, inherent) emotion of weddings, and not considering other professions.

        But I think some of the most poignant and acclaimed news photographs were taken because the person behind the lens connected with the emotion we got to see thru her/his work, but as a professional, understood that her/his job was to document and not assist. (Not to even mention how overwhelming it would be to individually try to assist everyone.) And nothing says that, when it was feasible, the photographer did not follow up with some assistance, tho nothing is amiss if s/he did not.

        Personally, I do prefer to have in my corner professionals who are able to connect with me and even express their own emotions when that is appropriate. I think that shows an understanding that we are all human.

        And, just a note, concerning the awed child, altho I was unpaid, I was the only (not the back-up) photographer, and I didn't miss even one critical shot. Getting those kinds of shots is why I have a very flexible telephoto lens on most of my cameras. (28-300mm with a minimum focus distance of 18")

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