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  •  my son's friend (6+ / 0-)

    My son, 24, has a friend who's 21. They've been friends about 2 years.

    The friend was diagnosed with autism as a child, and (to hear him tell it) exhibited typical autistic behaviors until he was in high school.

    Then--he got a crush on a girl.

    (I realize that in itself may not be a typical autistic experience.)

    Anyhow, the autistic kid realized that this girl was only likely to want to get romantic with him if he was more socially typical. So he began to study his peers' social interactions, to try to figure out what they were feeling and how their feelings influenced their behaviors--how to decipher the unstated, assumed social reasoning behind interactions.

    I don't know if he actually got the girl. But I know that he's had girlfriends in college, including one he was sensible enough to realize was self-centered and manipulative, so he broke up with her.

    And I know that, if the young man didn't tell his good friends--and yes, he has multiple good friends--about his diagnostic background, nobody would guess. I wouldn't say he's "cured"--he can still be indelicate, in an open-book kind of way. But he's FUNNY--ON PURPOSE--he's become a sharp enough observer of social interaction to appreciate and articulate its ironies, and its periodic ridiculousness.

    And he enjoys it.

    "The true strength of our nation comes not from the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals." - Barack Obama

    by HeyMikey on Sun Mar 16, 2014 at 05:09:50 PM PDT

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    •  Ummmmm... no. (7+ / 0-)

      You are so wrong. I'm sorry if that's rude but it's very, very, very wrong. Most autistic people are capable of falling in love, making friends, and so on.

      I had the same kind of experience. I deliberately focused on learning social norms in high school so that I wouldn't be doomed to be a friendless loser for the rest of my days.

      And you know what? I'm still autistic.

      Autism isn't just a set of weird behaviors. It's a completely different method of brain wiring. It doesn't go away because we learn to function in the society you've set up. Quite the reverse.

      When the scribbling devil is got into a man's head, he falls to writing and publishing, which gets him as much fame as money, and as much money as fame. ~ Cervantes

      by scribblingTiresias on Sun Mar 16, 2014 at 05:18:29 PM PDT

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      •  that wasn't my point (1+ / 0-)
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        I didn't say he's no longer autistic. I said he is now socially functional to a high degree. He has girlfriends, and multiple good friends.

        Sorry if I was inarticulate.

        "The true strength of our nation comes not from the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals." - Barack Obama

        by HeyMikey on Mon Mar 17, 2014 at 03:35:20 AM PDT

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    •  Autism is real, it is not made up (3+ / 0-)

      No one can not decide to no longer be autistic. No amount of study or will power can change autism.

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