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  •  Sorry I didn't see this earlier. (0+ / 0-)

    I would have recc'ed it if I had.

    But with due respect, I don't think you mother was ever stupid. She was just ignorant. There is a difference. Love goes a long way toward fixing ignorant. Stupid, well, perhaps I'm being cyclical here, no, scratch that, I know I'm being cyclical here, but to me at least, stupid is that which you can't fix.

    Congratulations to your mother for growing and congratulations to you for finding that love in your mother and having here recognize it.

    I've recently had my own attempts at reconciliation with two people. And it turns out, ignorance can be fixed by either intelligence or love. In this case it was blind, stupid, love and it wasn't for me, but the aura just kind of brought me in as a basic human courtesy. And stupid? That, well if recent experience is any indicator, that, well, you cannot fix. And it wasn't my first try either.

    Good luck to you and yours in the future. And for what it's worth, your story inspires me. Maybe I'll try just one more time. Maybe, at the end of the day, after everything,  I'm the  stupid that just can't be fixed.

    What the hell?

    Once more into the breach.

    Ceterum censeo Factionem Republicanam esse delendam.

    by journeyman on Mon Mar 17, 2014 at 06:17:09 PM PDT

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    •  I would agree about that. Stupid is different. (0+ / 0-)

      My mom was smart though uneducated and she kept learning. When I told her, when I was 29, that she'd always used me to lean on and give her moral support, etc., but had not paid attention to me and my needs, she was gobsmacked. I'd never had the nerve before to tell her but hadn't seen her much for a while and ventured to spill my "baggage." First, she said she was sorry which went a long way with me. She rather amazed me as I never thought she would change. But she did and I never saw that old behavior. It was more of a give and take that was like it should be. We ended up very close.

      I wish you well in your efforts. The other person has to be ready for it, I think, and to want the relationship to improve. But I do believe it is so worth trying. If it doesn't work, wait and wait then try again. However, sometimes it is so painful that one cannot do it, I know that from my relationship with my dad. I have deep regret I did not see my way to healing that. Just couldn't see a way to do it, seemed too far gone. But later I realized, too late, that I just need to have opened my mouth and said a few well thought out sentences and he probably would have gotten it! Oh, well, as he would say!

      Take care. Thanks for taking the time to respond. I sure hope it works for you.

      "extreme concentration of income is incompatible with real democracy.... the truth is that the whole nature of our society is at stake." Paul Krugman

      by Gorette on Tue Mar 18, 2014 at 08:42:56 PM PDT

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