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  •  I had the same thought (10+ / 0-)

    I live in the Bible Belt. My Episcopal parish is seeing a number of young visitors who were reared in fundamentalist churches. They are looking at other denominations because they cannot stomach the far-right stance on social issues, especially LGBT civil rights.

    There are a few other progressive congregations in town. Members say the same thing is happening in their churches.

    Just because you're not a drummer doesn't mean that you don't have to keep time. -- T. Monk

    by susanala on Mon Mar 17, 2014 at 04:38:01 PM PDT

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    •  It's not just the church stances, (2+ / 0-)
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      it's the having to keep quiet.

      I spent years in the SBC after I had close gay friends, partly because I'd never been anywhere else and didn't know how to leave in a real psychological sense. It was a breath of fresh air to be someplace where I could even mention they existed!

      And then I moved. Cooperative Baptist Fellowship congregation this time... but with enough of the old SBC types still there that you really couldn't talk about anything. Someone thought "Love the sinner hate the sin" meant he was an enlightened Christian, for instance. Leadership was more open, but forget saying anything where other church attendees or members could hear you.

      That was the church where I was when I came out to myself as asexual. I'd lost contact with most of the people from the accepting church, and even now all of two people from there have any clue. A grand total of four people at the CBF church ever knew, all leadership staff, and it was probably nearly a year before I told any of them.

      Last January was one of the last straws. Not being able to mention that I was emotionally invested in what was happening with commonmass and GMB02, even when I had been away from the internet for days because SNOW and had no idea if the person I was praying for was still alive or not, because oh noes I might let someone know I care whether a gay man dies. Um, screw that. I kept my mouth shut because I had to and started vaguely looking for a way out - and then midway through Lent it became a having-to-get-out for other reasons.

      I didn't notice the local episcopal church had welcoming language on a webpage I'd read a dozen times before until right around Palm Sunday. Good Friday was my first day in one of their pews, and I've been the perpetually visiting baptist ever since.

      Even if you can stomach hearing the official stance, it can take a lot out of someone to have to constantly keep their own stance hidden. Not quite so bad as the closet-closet - for one thing, it's not a Who You Personally Are issue - but it can be very very close.

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