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  •  If I come to you and want you to kill me, is it (0+ / 0-)

    ok for you to follow through?

    What does who instigates things  have to do with morality of making it a habit of screwing married folk?  Some married guy wants to get butt fucked, so who needs to worry about the spouse?

    Really?

    •  having sex and murder are two different (2+ / 0-)
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      things. come on.

      Dawkins is to atheism as Rand is to personal responsibility. uid 52583 lol

      by terrypinder on Sat Mar 29, 2014 at 07:48:28 PM PDT

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    •  Oh good Lord, seriously? (0+ / 0-)

      Cheating is the same as murder? Seriously?

      Behold the shark you have now jumped.

      •  The problem as I see it is this: (1+ / 0-)
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        If two people are in a relationship, say a man and a woman (but this goes for all exclusive couples), and they have agreed to be faithful, but one of them, say the man, is not, but pretends to be, then the other partner, in this case the wife, can't be blamed for feeling safe in the relationship.

        However, she finds out that she has an STD, perhaps even AIDS, and she wonders how this can be. The only conclusion is that the partner has been unfaithful and been lying. When she finds out from the partner, once he decides to be truthful, that he has been engaging in unprotected anal sex with other men because he felt that his wife couldn't provide this, it is not surprising that she would be angry or betrayed. First of all he wasn't honest with her in the first place. If he had been, he might have discovered that she may have obliged him with anal stimulation. People in love will often go beyond their boundaries to some extent if they feel it will keep their beloved from straying. If the partner finds out these things after the fact, then she wasn't really given a chance, and it is probably too late for honesty at this point to do any good.

        Now as to who is to blame, I would say the partner who pretended to agree to monogamy and then cheated is to blame. He may have gotten an STD from a gay man which the gay man may or may not have known he had at the time, but the gay man did not force himself on the partner, and the partner may also have lied to the gay man to get what he wanted. Married men often give out false names and phone numbers. Some even create whole alternate identities. Sometimes it is not only the original partner who is the victim here. But it is not unusual to blame the partners indiscretions on the paramours. It is easier to think that the partner was lured astray, which may or may not have been the case, rather than to judge oneself as a poor judge of character.

        While I think it would be much healthier for our society to be open and honest about what our sexuality, sexual preferences, and sexual expectations are. Our society and many of the individuals in it are so sex phobic that it is unlikely to happen any time soon. How many relationships are going to get off the ground if the partner says, "I really want to have a relationship with you, but there will be times when I will need another man to buttfuck me." It can happen, but it is rare.

        "The economy and the environment are, in fact, permanently intertwined. A healthy economy depends on a healthy environment. Can't have one without the other." -- Meteor Blades

        by politically indigo on Sun Mar 30, 2014 at 07:31:10 AM PDT

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