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  •  Reading through the stories (8+ / 0-)

    at your link to the Everyday Sexism Project, I'm struck by how many of them describe incidents happening as teens.  Harassers target those who are most vulnerable (emotionally and otherwise) and least likely to know how to defend themselves.

    I shall die, but that is all that I shall do for Death; I am not on his payroll. - Edna St. Vincent Millay

    by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Sat Apr 05, 2014 at 05:47:33 PM PDT

    •  I still remember my first street harassment (3+ / 0-)

      at 13. The whole time I'd be thinking, "Why do grown men care about 13 year old girls?" At the camp I went to, we'd walk past a short strip of a major road. Walking one single block, it was amazing how many catcalls we'd hear from male drivers. The sickness just astonished me. I'm a 40 year old woman now, and believe me, I have never thought about a 13 year old boy in a remotely sexual way. What sane adult does?

      •  I remember getting catcalled at 13 (2+ / 0-)
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        by adult men, and finding it completely humiliating.  I had a guy on the street offer me money for sex at 15, and I wasn't wearing anything remotely suggestive.

        The one that sticks in my mind, though, is the harasser at a temp job when I was 18.  The more clear I was with my boundaries, telling him I didn't want to hear his sexual remarks, the more he escalated it, telling me he wanted to pay me for sex, etc.  I did call the temp agency afterward; don't know if they did anything aside from agreeing I'd never have to work with him again.

        And there are still guys who tell me I "should be flattered" by street harassment.  Oy!

        I shall die, but that is all that I shall do for Death; I am not on his payroll. - Edna St. Vincent Millay

        by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Sun Apr 06, 2014 at 08:30:00 AM PDT

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        •  There is nothing flattering about that kind of (2+ / 0-)

          presumptive behavior. A man doesn't treat a woman he respects that way.

          I wouldn't call someone who acts that way towards women--a man. He might be male, but obviously he is a poor specimen rife with emotional baggage and insecurities if he thinks the only way he can get with a woman it to put her on the spot in front of an audience.

          "It were a thousand times better for the land if all Witches, but especially the blessing Witch, might suffer death." qtd by Ehrenreich & English. For Her Own Good, Two Centuries of Expert's Advice to Women pp 40

          by GreenMother on Sun Apr 06, 2014 at 09:52:18 AM PDT

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      •  No doubt samanthab. (2+ / 0-)

        "It were a thousand times better for the land if all Witches, but especially the blessing Witch, might suffer death." qtd by Ehrenreich & English. For Her Own Good, Two Centuries of Expert's Advice to Women pp 40

        by GreenMother on Sun Apr 06, 2014 at 09:49:35 AM PDT

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      •  Too late to rec this (0+ / 0-)

        but so many of us have these memories. I rode the subways of NYC when I was in high school, and getting groped was just part of the commute.

        Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be ... almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die. - Jonathan Safran Foer

        by ramara on Wed Apr 09, 2014 at 06:41:37 AM PDT

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