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  •  I believe the ratio (0+ / 0-)

    derives from the physical strength imbalance and lack of everyday opportunities to exploit it.

    There are very few situations in modern American society where brawn is a practical asset.  Few of us carry heavy loads at work or have to chop firewood anymore, for example.  We glorify violence in football, movies and the military because it's a vicarious outlet for physical abilities we no longer use.

    With any kind of ability comes the temptation to use it.  Any male with anger management issues and poor impulse control can be inclined to hit someone.  If survival instincts matter more than bravado, I'm guessing he'd be more likely to hit his wife than get into a bar fight.

    I don't know if women exhibit the same kind of destructive behavior as often as men, but if they do it's not surprising that it takes other forms.  Such as passive-aggressiveness, verbal abuse/harassment, lying in divorce proceedings, etc.  Fortunately none of these result in death.  Men of course can exhibit these patterns of behavior too, but for many of them it's probably easier just to use their fist.

    First they came for the slippery-slope fallacists, and I said nothing. The End.

    by Cream Puff on Fri Apr 04, 2014 at 09:59:10 AM PDT

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    •  Partly. There tends to be a vast difference in (1+ / 0-)
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      the socialization of boys & girls that contributes heavily, as well. Girls express emotions and ask questions of their social set, essentially crowd sourcing their questions and eliciting feedback on their observations and frustrations. It's ubiquitous and expected. But there's a lot of culturalization that discourages boys from learning to use those outlets to obtain relief and support regarding the daily stresses of those questions and frustrations. Fewer outlets = greater likelihood of explosions or catastrophic failures of social restraint.

      Information is abundant, wisdom is scarce. ~The Druid.
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      by FarWestGirl on Fri Apr 04, 2014 at 02:20:04 PM PDT

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    •  Interesting (0+ / 0-)

      How the basic MRA complaint about "women lying in divorce proceedings" has somehow turned into a general attribute of women, when I don't believe that women lie in divorce proceedings any more than men do. But MRAs have complained so much about their divorces in the last twenty years (or however long it's been since their movement has gained critical mass) that the specter of the lying ex-wife has become something easily recognizable.

      I really thought you were going to say that when women exhibit destructive behavior that it tends to turn inward and become self-destructive behavior, and that I might have been willing to accept. But of course men do that as well, just as they also are passive-aggressive and verbal abusers.

      I'm not saying that you are an MRA, just that it's interesting that their ideas have filtered this far down into society.

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