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  •  Depends on his mental state. (4+ / 0-)

    Sometimes, especially with aspergers, girls may show interest but the guy just does not see it, and the women blows it off as being a lack of interest.

    And, part of a cluster of defect that comes from living as an aspie without help by a mental health professional is both a lack of respect for any authority yet having a rigidity when it comes to rules.  It is hard to describe.

    •  Yes exactly (1+ / 0-)
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      There's this guy I know who's sister privately suspects has asperger's. He's in his late 30s and has been incapable of having a relationship his entire life. He's completely inept at reading social cues, and is in this never-ending cycle of dating women only to be hurt by them in the end when he doesn't understand why they keep breaking up with him.

      Plus, even though he's closing in on 40, he obsesses over young women the way you would expect someone much younger would. It's all very odd. He's a really smart guy, and genuinely seems to care about people, but he's just...off. And, for some reason or another, his family just refuses to actually tell him that the problems he's having are due to his inability to read people the way most people learn to do growing up. So he's gone his whole life with no help.

      Two hundred fifty years of slavery. Ninety years of Jim Crow. Sixty years of separate but equal. Thirty-five years of racist housing policy. Until we reckon with our compounding moral debts, America will never be whole. - Ta-Nehisi Coates

      by moviemeister76 on Sat May 24, 2014 at 11:02:15 AM PDT

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      •  there are behavioral therapists who will (3+ / 0-)
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        accompany you into, say, a social group, and evaluate your interactions both during and afterwards.  It's part of the cognitive behavioral therapy class of treatments, I think.  I don't know if could be useful for people with Asperger's--I think it might in some circumstances.

        •  It sounds like it would be useful (3+ / 0-)

          I'm not too close to the guy, but watching him struggle with constant rejection and his family just doing nothing about it seems cruel to me. They just keep telling him that there's nothing wrong with him and he's just not met the right woman. Even though, his sister at least, is lying when she says that.

          Two hundred fifty years of slavery. Ninety years of Jim Crow. Sixty years of separate but equal. Thirty-five years of racist housing policy. Until we reckon with our compounding moral debts, America will never be whole. - Ta-Nehisi Coates

          by moviemeister76 on Sat May 24, 2014 at 11:14:11 AM PDT

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        •  CT is useful. (2+ / 0-)
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          Part of the social/sexual recovery is the recognition that one must learn the cues in in intellectual way that people normally take for granted.  That is where CT is useful.  

          Normal people are like fish swimming through water while I am like a scuba diver, a visitor in a mileau that goes unnoticed by the fish.  I read people like I "read" a movie, getting a lot out of it but ultimately detached.

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