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  •  thanks for the post. Having struggled badly in (2+ / 0-)
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    P E Outlier, kfunk937

    adolescence and post-adolescence--far longer than I care to admit, it is disappointing to realize that virtually no one here will grasp the concept.  It's not really the kind of thing for which any outlets exist.  Like you, I've basically moved past it--but it wasn't a fun--or short--period.  And I thiknk a lot of people never move past it.  So anger builds up...I experienced some of it but kept it to myself.  The healthiest thing I did--actually with the help of some of these not-always-savory sites as well as legitimate (and not cheap) psych help--was basically turn the tables on myself and seeing what I was doing to block out other people--rather than why people weren't responding to me.  Perhaps the best decision I've ever made.  Actually, my therapist supported my choices because I knew what I was doing, knew something was blocked, and am a pretty self-aware person.

    I'm just sorry to see being 'stuck'--which is a real psychological problem--with hatred and misogyny--which seems to be going on quite a bit here.  Sometimes one DOES breed the other--but they are also very different animals.

    •  Great reply - thanks (1+ / 0-)
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      kfunk937

      People seldom realize the amplifying power of self rejection.  Glad you made it through.

      •  well, maybe 80 % through--still more to go! (0+ / 0-)

        But I even had some psychological terms for things I experienced in my 20s...I called them 'white rage' and 'black rage'.  They felt/were dangerous---although I would never hurt either myself or anyone else.  Those are long gone--as is the misogyny I felt back then.  One important realization was that none of those feelings actually had anything to do with women/dating/sex at their core--those were just manifestations.  Actually it really had to do with bad vision from early childhood!  

        •  I don't know if one is ever whole. (1+ / 0-)
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          Namazga III

          Like thinking about all of this and following this story and the one of the girl who was bullied about her sexual life and committed suicide - as I think I've said, it raises my level of anxiety, almost like PTSD over that absolutely horrible segment of my personal life.

          Good luck!

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