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  •  Sorry, but I find that worthy of a hiderate (42+ / 0-)

    Seriously? "Sense of shared victimhood"??

    As someone who has been molested at a young age, date-raped (twice), groped, peeped, flashed, beaten, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed at work, and escaped being taken by Ted Bundy by sheer luck... I find this incredibly revolting and offensive.

    I'm in a quiet neighborhood, and haven't had any problems in the fifteen years I've lived here. But that doesn't stop me from flinching and being a little fearful when I hear strange noises.

    I'M NOT ALONE.

    Part of being a woman is knowing that any man you come across, day or night, might be the one to attack you - but you still have to live, and not let it affect you on a daily basis. You live your life being cautious because men feel like it's their right to do as they please...

    Fuck. I can't believe anyone would write what you did, and still consider himself a "progressive".

    "We have only the moral ground we actually inhabit, not the moral ground we claim." - It Really Is That Important

    by Diogenes2008 on Sun May 25, 2014 at 09:00:46 AM PDT

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    •  Is male privilege the right term? (5+ / 0-)

      The fact that men do not necessarily have to access their personal risk of being sexually assaulted wherever they are? I don't want to make the parallel to the term white privilege if it's not an accurate comparison.

      This reminds me of a good article posted in a comment by cai. The article was called Schrodinger's Rapistand was about how women, consciously and subconsciously, are assessing their personal safety with every man.

      •  Many males, it would seem, ... (3+ / 0-)

        don't even believe that there can be such a thing as sexual assault.  They think the victim should just lie back and enjoy it, as they (the males) imagine they would.  It somehow has never occurred to them to ponder how violated they would feel after being raped by another male.

        "Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity, and I am not sure about the universe." -- Albert Einstein

        by Neuroptimalian on Sun May 25, 2014 at 01:44:53 PM PDT

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        •  I do not believe (0+ / 0-)

          most of those males you refer to have ever been, or have been ever willing to admit to having been, raped, serially molested, or seen as sexual prey.

          As one of THOSE males, I find this entire line of conversation offensive, and hold it in disrepute.

          I have often been accused of looking at every man I see, as if I were wanting to have sex with them. Nothing could be further from the truth, yet I have been classified, categorized, and analyzed to death over my "latent homosexuality"--for none other than this very reason.

          When, in those many instances my first response dealt with the absolute terror I feel when sighting a male, even in my periphery, I am told I am lying. I have been told I am hallucinating, or so paranoid as to be commit-worthy.

          As for white privilege, I've never felt it, had it, or even wanted it. I am a white male. Go figger.

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          by Bud Fields on Sun May 25, 2014 at 05:34:41 PM PDT

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          •  I'm sorry for the miseries you've experienced, ... (1+ / 0-)
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            but I'm referring only to the males who think sexual assault of a female is no big deal ... because, they claim, it wouldn't be a big deal to them; in fact, many seem to say, they wish they would be assaulted by females.  You don't seem to be one of them; my comment was not composed with men like you in mind.

            "Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity, and I am not sure about the universe." -- Albert Einstein

            by Neuroptimalian on Sun May 25, 2014 at 07:05:38 PM PDT

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