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  •  Reminds me of MLK. Jr. vs Malcolm X divide (6+ / 0-)

    Admittedly so, I am far from an expert on the nuances of each leader's movements; movements that had generally similar goals but approached them in vastly different methods.

    If you excuse the infinitesimally brief history lesson here, what we had was MLK, Jr. speaking of justice and unity through non-violence, whereas Malcolm X was much, much more aggressive with his rhetoric.  It's interesting that our nation today celebrates MLK, Jr. but considers Malcolm X to be a fringe militant, though there is probably a bit of truth to that.  But that's for another discussion.

    I allude to the above because I see that same divide with regard to women's issues, and also about white privilege in other diaries. One side wants to engage the less informed through conciliatory means, the other wants people to "STFU" or "shut up and listen".  I can see reasons for both, though I'm much more often in the MLK, Jr.-style camp when it comes to changing hearts and minds.

    When someone is accusatory and inflammatory toward me, I automatically put up a barrier to their message, even if I would end up agreeing with it.  Members of the "STFU" camp would suggest that that reflects poorly on myself, not the message itself; the "you've got hurt fee fees" argument.  Which I think is quite myopic.

    I see the "STFU" diaries as basically "I can't fucking take this anymore!" rants.  Sometimes those are necessary.  But overall, I have learned much more about these issues by reading experiences, as opposed to shouting matches.  

    All that said, I rec'd the STFU diaries because on this issue I think some people do need a dose of harsh reality, but people have to understand that it will turn off members based on the harsh rhetoric of the message itself.  Some here really get pissed off when people mention such a thing, but they are just out of touch with reality.

    "Give me a lever long enough... and I shall move the world." - Archimedes

    by mconvente on Sat May 31, 2014 at 07:40:45 AM PDT

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