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  •  When I was 29 (1+ / 0-)
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    I took a basement/ground level apartment when my previous living space (also a basement) became unavailable to me.  I would leave the windows, which were large and about level with the ground outside, open on hot nights, since there was no air conditioning and no fans in the apartment to keep it from being stuffy.  One unseasonably hot night that November, a young man climbed in through one of them and held a knife to my throat and raped me.

    I hadn't ever been socialized to that kind of caution, of keeping "perimeters" secure against threats -- or maybe to the extent that I had, I had resisted it, as unfair and unnecessarily restrictive.  15 years later I'm nearly back to that mindset, to the dismay at times of my husband, coming home to find the door unlocked with just me in the house.  That sort of thing.  So much of it is down to an individual woman's personality.  But I think it would be hard to honestly and knowledgeably argue that the other way, "living in fear" to the extent that you take even significantly restrictive precautions, is not more sensible.

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