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  •  elveta, you're not alone (4.00)
    I gave my youngest child up in a privately arranged adoption, and it was the hardest thing i ever did.

    While i was pregnant with her, there was a high profile story on the news about a woman who had given her child up for adoption at birth. When she knew he would have turned 18, she went back to try to make contact with him. His adoptive mother had murdered him when he was three.

    After I became familiar with this story, there was no way on heaven or earth that I would have given her away through the standard channels in my state. I arranged a private adoption in California, and travelled there to make it happen.

    I was absolutely haunted by what happened to that little boy.

    If you ever need to talk, I'm here.

    •  mine had a happy ending (none)
      I had to give up my baby girl for adoptionin 1969 - that was the hardest decision I have ever had to come to terms with. It tormented me every day, but there was no way I could keep her & look after her properly. I knew that then & I know that now. I was fortunate enough to find her 6 years ago! It was like having that hole in my heart filled. Fortunately she was raised by good people & didn't suffer any abuse. It was amazing to meet her - I still marvel at how truly fortunate I am. The most striking thing that we both noticed right away is that we have the exact same laugh. How cool is that?

      I didn't have a choice at the time, the only choice I had was to try to raise her on my own or give her up for adoption. I fully support every woman's right to choose. Yes, adoption is one solution, but it carries a heavy weight, too. We have to make sure our kids get educated instead of this abstinance only crap. I have 2 sons now, 18 & 20 & they both know that birth control is just as much their responsibility as it is the woman's & we have to keep abortion safe & legal. It is not a coincidence that the number of abortions was lower during the Clinto years than it is now.

      Thanks for this diary - will write the good doctor next.

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