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  •  Politics is a two way street (4.00)
    family is not. First of all, as I creep toward that age, I notice most elderly people seem to get more cratchety and intolerant. There is a change one goes through when mortality is sinking in and their legacy becomes more important. Most elderly folks no longer control their destiny, nor do they control most of their surrounding like they may have. It is that loss of control that angers them most. It's health, it's loneliness, it's seeing the end of the tunnel. It is hard for those under 65 to understand that. You are as set in your ways as your parents are. The conflict is so typical if there are differences of philosophy. The objective is not to win a political argument. The objective for any family is to accept each other. Your kids will do the same to you some day, so I hope you learn from this. There is no easy or perfect solution. The only thing I know is you are the one in control, not your parents.
    •  Getting "cratchety and intolerant" (4.00)
      works both ways.

      My father is 76 and I would say that describes him pretty well.

      The only difference is that he is changing that way against George Bush and the Republicans.

      He went to see Fahrenheit 911 by himself and I think that is the only movie he has ever gone to by himself.

      Lady Nutmegger - I don't know what to tell you about your dad except to give you an example.

      Growing up, I was the black sheep/trouble maker of the family, especially with my father. We butted heads big time. As I got older, I realized that he and my mother had also encouraged me in a lot of positive ways. He encouraged me to do well in school and athletics. Both of which helped me to be an independent woman.

      One evening I had dinner with my parents and after a bottle of wine, I blurted out how much I appreciated all the things that I appreciated about my childhood. Our relationship has improved so much (mind you we sometimes still butt heads but we both disagree with George Bush)

      Based on your decisions to support NOW and go to Washington DC, your father probably had some positive influences in you childhood. I'll just leave it there.

      Good luck with your father.

      The Republicans have a fundamental problem with telling the truth - Howard Dean.

      by NYC Sophia on Sun Jan 08, 2006 at 06:02:27 PM PST

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