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  •  So what you're saying is (none)
    I'm a privileged prat who doesn't even grasp the extent to which I've been sheltered from the harsh realities of other people's lives by my privilege, and I want you all to just shut up and stop making me (and others like me) feel uncomfortable about the daily terror and shaming and discrimination you live with.

    Okay, I guess....


    No Pity. No Shame. No Silence.

    Since you seem to have missed this, I dare you to go there.

    Maybe, afterwards, you'll begin to understand.

    Or, just read this post, and perhaps you'll get it even faster. If you don't, then I suspect there's no hope for you, that nothing but a nipponized bit of the old sixth avenue el will ever make an impression in your head...

    "Don't be a janitor on the Death Star!" - Grey Lady Bast (change @ for AT to email)

    by bellatrys on Mon Feb 21, 2005 at 05:05:57 AM PST

    •  Please... (none)
      ...there is no need for this vitriol.  Reread my diary and my comments if you must, you'll find that nowhere am I dismissing the scope or importance of these problems.  Please do not make presumptions about who I am or my life, and please do not insult me based on your prejudgments.

      Furthermore, nowhere did I say that the t-shirts or whatever else made me feel uncomfortable: I said that they seemed out of place, an odd truism without context.  You seem to be responding to how others may react to such displays (and doing so with a good bit of fervor), but it was not my reaction.  I don't "live with" the daily terror and shaming and discrimination: I actively, in my own life, try to be as good and fair a human being as I can.  I actively, in my discussions with others, try to promote rationality and equality.  I actively, in my deeds, work and live life with people of all races, creeds, genders, and whatever other groups you want to cook up.  So please, don't condemn me for the misdeeds of others: not all men are guilty.

      The link you provided, even though you did so in spite and condescension, is quite appreciated.  It's been awhile since I've read mefi or been to LJ, so this was news to me.  Unfortunately it looks like much of the original posts/discussion just aren't loading (I guess they got too big, too many comments), but from what I saw it looked like a good and inspirational dialogue.  I am glad it occurred, and thank you for showing it to me.

      In closing, thank you for the link, and for the authenticity and rawness of your comment.  But please, don't judge me - don't group me, don't assume facts about my life, and don't condemn me for the acts of others.  If you reread my posts you will see that I am not dismissing the problems of violence against women, inequality, and other issues - quite the opposite, in fact.  The mere fact that I am earnestly and openly engaging these issues in dialogue seems like it should be a positive sign, and I have repeatedly acknowledged their reality and their importance and the wrongness of those who dismiss, much less approve of or commit, such acts.

      So, keep that in mind.  The presumptions, the insults, the vitriol, and the condescension are all quite unnecessary.

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