a core value that, on my list, comes before privacy.
You wrote (and I listed them reversed):
    When abortion, and therefore women who have abortions are labeled horrible by alleged 'friends' they become just another form of attack, on our most basic autonomy- our 'self rule'.
    We're going to need to talk about the realities of our experienes, and how no, abortion is not horrible- for many of women it has been damn good.

I have always believed that women (and men) who feel  this way, should stand up and be bravely direct as you have been with this commentary. It is good for a woman who needs/wants/has to get an abortion that she be supported in HER decision WITHOUT judgement since IT IS HER BODY and not some pod somewhere in lala land that provides the environment in which the zygote/embryo/fetus develops.  I have witnessed much relief and sometimes joy on the faces of women of different ages I helped as clinic escort or when providing transportation to and from an abortion clinic.  I know women who admitted to being happy that they had an abortion when the time for a child was not right.

No, abortion is not a "horrible" thing.  For me, it is lifesaving:  my own life, since I decided that if I am in a situation in which I cannot terminate an unwanted pregnancy, I would by any means not continue the pregnancy. Least one thinks that is extreme, remember that the women who today, in many parts of the world, get back-alley abortions KNOW that the procedure, by the very dire conditions in which it is performed, can lead to their own deaths.  They knowingly choose a possibility of death over an unwanted pregnancy.

Thank you for an excellent diary.