(2) Go back 50 years

(3) Replace "gay" with "bi-racial" in your comment.

I'm not sure what to do with the "porn star" part.  I assume that was snark.

Sorry you had it rough in High School.

The Right is always talking about the dangers of 'normalizing' homosexuality.  There's a reason they're afraid of that.  When something begins to be accepted as normal it becomes harder to whip up hate against it.  Those peers you speak of will change when they know so many GLBT people that the only reaction they have to Johnny having two mothers is boredom.

I'm not sure how you can say you're for gay rights, but then tell us we shouldn't have children.  How is that seeing us as equal citizens or, even more fundamentally, as equal human beings?  

Wow...thanks for being "almost" in favor of my equal rights.  I feel so...undeserving....

Kids will find ANY reason to weed out people in an instinctual attempt to kill off the weak and unfit. If it's not homosexuality, it's going to be something else. You can't shelter them from it and you can't take them away from it. The kid has to learn to stand out on his or her own. The kid's best bet is a couple of loving and supportive parents, who will raise that kid to be strong and independent.

If you look at families with two moms or two dads they really try very hard to look out for stuff like this and to give the child the best.  Generally because it's harder for them to have children they are excellent parents and work really hard to protect their kids - that's a massive generalization, I know but it's what I've seen in real life.  

I got through those years, thanks in part to having pretty good parents. I wouldn't wish that kind of treatment on anyone, and I'll do everything I can to keep my own kids from having to live through the same hell. But I know it's survivable. And my life has been a good one; I'm confident that I've known a lot more joy than any of my attackers. (Living well is indeed the best revenge.)

So while my heart goes out to kids who are tormented for having gay parents, I'm not sympathetic to the idea that gays should not have kids. If, Universe forbid, my wife and I were killed in an accident, we'd want our kids raised by two loving parents with values similar to ours. Gay, disabled, black, white, Jewish, Christian, atheist -- those are just details.

Your kid is getting beaten up for sure.  

as a gay parent  (Daddy, Papa & Me) and GLBT family activist, I know dozens, if not hundreds of GLBT parents, many in LA and many with kids in the LA public school system from grades 2 to 10... and to the last one..

not a single one is closeted about their relationship

and not a single one has every been physically threatened, much less beaten.

In fact, I know at least a half dozen families in GEORGIA where their kids our out and never hurt.

you need to speak from what you know, not what you think you'd expect. Perhaps you should visit the blogs of gay parents or speak to some parents and children directly to form a more realistic opinion.
(there are hundreds of thousands of parents and hundreds of blogs)

I realized that when on the bus recently, listening to some early-teen boys in the back teasing each other. They were calling each other cocksuckers and gay, and saying things like, "you just want to suck his dick." The comments obviously weren't intended as complimentary, but what struck me was, well, that no one seemed in any danger of being struck. The tone was light and bantering, rather than nasty. Instead of being infuriated, the insulted one would lob one of the same back, and everyone would laugh. Something seemed familiar, and I then realized that they were teasing each other about gay sex in almost precisely the same tone older generations had teased each other about straight sex -- as a potential embarassment, not a mortal insult.

But they were hardly alone in that - the computer lab guys, new wave punks and skater kids got flak, any weak looking skinny guy got flak, pretty much all the girls who weren't beautiful and sexily dressed got flak, the Indian kids, the immigrant kids, the black kids, Jewish kids, kids with cerebral palsy...  If a school is badly managed and bullies can run wild, very few kids will be safe.  

Yes it can be painful being different, almost nobody really likes not fitting in, there is always a price to pay.  Having a queer family or family member is only one on a long list of things that can make you stick out, and it won't make you stick out to total strangers.  And being different is not an evil, in fact, it's usually a plus once you get out of high school.

I know two sets of gay parents and they are the most conscientious loving careful parents imaginable.  If abusive neglectful selfish stupid addicted straight people can raise kids, I can't think of one reason why loving generous smart and  sane gay people shouldn't.  I think what you get at home ultimately matters a lot more to who you become than what you get at school.

And if you're a parent with kids in public school, you have to scope out that school ahead of time, be as involved as you can be, know the teachers, etc and if it's a hellhole, find your alternatives.  Gay, straight, whatever.  

If your argument is in defense of the child...You have missed the point entirely.

The Arizona law that does not allow unmarried couples to second-parent adoption hurts the child on several fronts.
Health and Life Insurance, inheritance, custody are only just a few...

Certainly the biological parent can provide for these but the law as written also serves to let the second-parent off the hook for any legal responsibility that they may have and should have towards their non-biological children and this is irregardless of if their best intentions are for meeting all of the child's needs.

And then in the event of death of the biological parent the child who may have only known of his/her loving parents now becomes the unnecessary victim of the court.  And worse should now the second-parent petition for adoption be contested by the biological relatives of the child all of whom may not have the best interests of the child in mind and are free now to bias the court with any hate retoric that they may have about the child being raised by a GLBT

There in lies the problem I have as clearly the law is not about the best needs of the children in these cases.

As an Arizonian I am ashamed...as a lesbian I am appalled

Gay couples often adopt children that are not the focus of 'traditional' adoption efforts.  And, in any case, every state has many children in foster care that are waiting, waiting, waiting...  

Oh heck... better for them not to have ANY parents than to be made fun of in school.

If it isn't having two dads, it's something else. Being fat, wearing glasses, you name it.

I can't help but think that if we stop gay adoption because of people's reaction to it, we're sort of giving in.

It was more dangerous to be nerdy, for sure.

Also lousy example for kids that the threat of intolerance should control your behavior.

I got beat up.  My brother got a trip to the emergency room, courtesy of the fists of loving, tolerant Christians.

How did we handle it?  Well, my mother promised to back us with up to and including legal action, and my brother and I got ourselves trained in ass-whuppin' from my mom's MP (Marine) boyfriend.  A few kicked asses later, and lo and behold, we had no further trouble.

Some parents screamed threats of legal action, and the district threatened us with expulsion, but we had a nice, lengthy paper trail and a parent that said the magic words "you can talk to my lawyer."

Bottom line:  you can raise your kids to be victims, or to be survivors.  You'd better train them to be survivors.  I'm proud of my beliefs, heritage and of my parents and would do it all over again.