People need to feel heard and respected, even if disagreed with. Even if strongly disagreed with.

Partisans on both sides of the aisle are lately pretty lousy at doing this, which I believe is one of the reasons we are so polarized.  

It's hard to respect someone who doesn't respect you.  And, generally speaking, that's when people stop listening.

Give me a succinct, for example this would have worked statement.

Please, I mean this sincerely; but I don't think there is a good way to answer this question. I'll give you target practice. Improve on this.

I don't understand why anyone is interested on my opion of the morality of homosexuality. It's irrelevant. We need people to fulfill roles on our military and society. To me, using homosexual status as a construct to prevent people from performing vital services that save lives in the military is what is truly immoral.