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  •  I got the same thing when i was in school... (0+ / 0-)

    I was beat up for being "wussy" (read as: i was much smaller than boys, and was percieved as a girly boy... which is not entirely untrue) and when my parents came in to complain the teacher said it was actually a good thing and that i would have to learn to stand up for myself.

    "Learn to stand up for myself".

    Again people sometimes twice my weight, against two or three or four-to-one odds, against attacks that could literally come at just about any second from just about any angle, sometimes with weapons.

    I was supposed to "stand up to" that.

    And because of that my parents (my mother in particular) basically ignored my difficulties. Were it not for the mother of one of my friends who (thank God) stepped in and slapped them about at one point i would have probably been driven to suicide by this. And then people would have wondered what was wrong with me that made me do it.

    And it isn't like they didn't know or understand, it's that none of the school administrators would stick their neck out. After Columbine the school dragged me into a very small room with a very large police officer (with a very loaded gun) to interrogate me about this whole thing. You see, they knew i had been abused (which is the real word "bullied" is a euphemism for) by the other students and they knew that, eventually, people in that situation would snap.

    Of course, being a bit of a pacifist (and, you know, not ethically impaired), i wasn't going to go on a killing spree.

    I have since gotten an apology out of my father for his non-intervention.

    Now, of course, i'm basically invulnerable (a combination of norse heritage and surviving a great deal of punishment at school) and have trained quite some time in martial arts so the situation would be different. But of course, then and there it was hopeless.

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    by Shapeshifter on Thu Jul 20, 2006 at 10:10:11 PM PDT

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    •  norse heritage (0+ / 0-)

      For those of you who are reading and don't know what it means, a large part of that heritage, as I experienced it growing up, is the belief that "you can take it."  No matter what life throws at you, you can take it.  You are a viking.  (well, the last part was in the background and not voiced).

      Robyn (sho is so Viking her great grandfather's name was Vick).

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      by rserven on Fri Jul 21, 2006 at 07:32:05 AM PDT

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