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  •  Like I said, I primarily agree with you. (3+ / 0-)
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    SarahLee, mango, PhantomFly

    No need to get angry at me.

    So, yes, we agree wholly that it should be Buffy's call.

    But, as much as it might remind her of a bad window in her life, it will also remind her that  or thousands of perfect strangers opened their hearts, homes and wallets.  That's beautiful and nothing to be ashamed of.

    •  Sorry, but (11+ / 0-)

      I don't think you've ever personally been there. I have. And I've been there for dozens and dozens of others.

      She'll never forget us, she doesn't need this to remind her. Having it public only calls attention to her from anyone who might find this diary in the future - and that's simply not beneficial. She has control of her diary, but not of others. For someone feeling helpless and out of control, this is only one more thing about her that she has no control of - and it advertises that fact publicly and perpetually.

      And declaring that she shouldn't be ashamed of it means nothing if she is ashamed of it - and I think that's something we should count on and is a totally reasonable response.

      Put another way, is this diary likely to do harm by being deleted? No. If she wants affirmation that we care about her, we can provide that in a thousand different ways. Is it likely to do harm by hanging around - yes.

      I'm sorry to be shrill, but this is much more important than people seem to realize.

      -6.00, -7.03
      "I want my people to be the most intolerant people in the world." - Jerry Falwell

      by johnsonwax on Tue Oct 10, 2006 at 03:16:00 PM PDT

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