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  •  Heh. :-) (6+ / 0-)

    Wish I could say stepson has pulled through his issues beautifully - he's doing better, but he's far from "good".  At any rate, had husband caught up to stepson, as mad as they both were, it would have gone down ugly.  As a stepmom, I have/had the weird perspective of trying to protect them, at times, from each other.  

    •  What is it with fathers and sons? (7+ / 0-)

      Seems like there comes a point when the son insists Dad see him as a man, as an equal.  Usually this is very hard for Dad to do, who knows how immature this kid is still.  Lots of testosterone floats around, and things can get physical and ugly very quickly.
      We've raised 2 boys of our own, and 2 others who were fosters, and this issue came up each time.  Dad became much wiser about dealing with adolescent male angst and was able to defuse situation when it started looking like the kid was going to force a physical confrontation.  
      We also raised 2 girls, and there was the same sort of "day of reckoning" between Mom and daughter, but no physical stuff.  She wanted to prove herself my equal, and I wanted respect.  
      Long story short, everyone got what they needed, and we all still love each other hugely.  It doesn't get much better than that, and the transient pain of being "challenged" was well worth it.

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