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  •  I think the difference (3+ / 0-)
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    Elise, jessical, Rippen Kitten

    comes in the juxtaposition of special communities vs. the wider society. I think reclaiming only works when the word had an initial positive connotation that was abused. For instance, "feminism." I don't want a new word. It was a good word, it was abused, we need to make it good again.

    I think that to take the step of saying "Yes, I'm a slut. So what? Why do you ask?" would work on an individual basis, to get other individuals to not judge each other's specific sexual behavior, but I think that's a slower and tougher road than introducing a new word, give it positive connotation, and use it.

    I think it comes down to what your aims are. If your aims are to find a word that can positively connotate one who has sexual interactions with many people, then another word will do that. If you want to diffuse the word "slut," that's a different story.

    That being said, I do think that diffusing the word "slut" of its negativity would be an incredibly valuable thing.

    •  very well argued... (4+ / 0-)

      ...though I immediately go back to "queer" and the fact that the same arguement has been used in terms of reclaiming it...I think you're right on the largest level, "slut" is terribly amorphous, and invokes an archetype of sorts, rather than a class of people who should be respected and so on; whereas "queer" defines an easier to delineate (if in fact, equally amorphous) group.  I think the word "slut" has already been defused though, and largely owned -- at least in that portion of the world where I can freely exist, it's use is a commonplace.  

    •  I've got no problem with sluts. (3+ / 0-)
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      Elise, Pandoras Box, kath25

      In all honesty, I'd rather date a slut then someone who is afraid of their own desires and represses themself because she's worried that I might think they're a slut. Maybe I'm just weird, but I would have no problem with a girl I was dating hooking up while I'm not present simply because she feelt like getting laid and I wasn't around to do the job personally. I'd like to hear all the kinky details later, to be honest. However If I was dating someone and they deliberatly flirted with someone in front of me strictly to provoke a jealous reaction out of me, I'd roll my eyes and say "Whatever" and lose respect for them. Using random strangers as pawns is unethical, IMHO.
      The whole concept of open / monogamous relationships is gender neutral. Both partners need to be real with each other about their wishes. The last girl I hooked up with complained about an ex boyfriend who cheated on her, then asked me to keep our affair secret because she didn't want her new boyfriend to find out. Hello!?!?
      People just have to be real with each other. That's all.

      Just when they think they've got the answer, I change the question. -Roddy Piper

      by McGirk on Wed May 23, 2007 at 11:38:05 PM PDT

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